I’m Okay and I’m On My Way

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Hey guys!

For those of you who have read the last couple of posts, you’d know I’ve been going through a lot and I really appreciate everyone who stuck with me through it! Thanks for the encouragement and prayers. It felt good to be on the receiving end of the encouragement!  😀

I’m glad to let you know I’m okay, and I’m on my way forward. The storm is calm and God’s peace has taken over. Thank God!

So I’m gonna share what I learnt from the past weeks;

Surround Yourself with ‘Encouragers’

I whined a lot about the depression and the bad breaks to quite a number of friends. The listeners listened; the encouragers encouraged me in the word, those who didn’t understand, still said something. A lot said the things I already knew. This reminded me of what Job said;

I also could speak like you, if you were in my place; I could make fine speeches against you and shake my head at you. –Job 16:4

This made me give a lot more thought to how I encourage others. Let’s face it, most of the things you hear, you already know. What makes the difference is the empathy and the understanding shown by the person encouraging. You don’t go saying stuffs when you have no idea what the person is going through.

It all lies in your hands

One of my senior friends took the time out to let me know the power to stop being miserable was in my hands. She understood my whining and empathized with me. But also told me that we are responsible for our happiness not other people. We determine how to react to bad stuffs that happen and how we let them affect us.

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This was followed by another message by Joyce Meyer that spoke about taking personal responsibility of what happens to us. There’s a limit to which people can help us. The bulk of the work still rests on our shoulders and our decisions.

Get your groove back!

So hey, I pulled out of the frumps and into some pumps and took myself out. Watched a really cool movie, didn’t even realize when I finished the pack of popcorn! Then I went on a shopping spree! Got a really cute dress, an amazing perfume and yeah I got a new chunky ring! 😀 Also had my favourite frozen yoghurt! Now that’s my happy place!  I forgot about the stuffs weighing me down and I even noticed how cute the clouds were on my way home. Like some soft pillows for the sky to rest upon. So adorable!

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Photo Credit: shumilamalik5.wordpress.com

You can’t stay in your happy place forever

Oh, shopping is my happy place ! I totally love getting new stuffs! 😀 But I found out you really can’t stay in your happy place forever. Reality kicks in like an unwanted guest. Not long into the week I broke down again. It was an implosion that caused an explosion as I attacked the people that came around me. I always had my moods under control but I just lost it that day and they saw it- and of course, it freaked them out 😦

True Joy comes from God

Happiness is easily triggered by circumstances and is often short lived. But joy! Oh sweet joy that comes from knowing God and how much He loves you regardless of your imperfections. I sought after that joy. Repented of my sins and turned back to His warm embrace. 🙂

I had to stop looking to people and things to give me only what God could give me– joy and peace! 

So dear one, if you’re still going through the sad phase, please cheer up. The night can never stop the day from breaking forth. No matter how stormy it is, calmness is certain.  Take responsibility for your life. Christ has already given you victory over this battle. Just arise and take it!

Have a super amazing week ahead!

Lots of love,

©Mfon Etuk, 2016

Feel free to share your thoughts! I look forward to reading them 😀

***Song for the day; Wanna Be Happy by Kirk Franklin***

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28 thoughts on “I’m Okay and I’m On My Way

    Courtney said:
    March 20, 2016 at 3:12 PM

    Glad to hear you’re feeling better! I’ve been praying for you! 😊🙏

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      Dainty M responded:
      March 20, 2016 at 6:43 PM

      You’re such a sweetheart, Courtney! Thank you for the prayers! God bless you! 🙂

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    oyide said:
    March 20, 2016 at 4:47 PM

    Congrats dear. Great to know you’re doing well.

    Always remember, the Joy of the Lord is your strength.

    Be happy! Amen.

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      Dainty M responded:
      March 20, 2016 at 9:14 PM

      Yes indeed! Thank you dear. You’re really a blessing 😀

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        oyide said:
        March 24, 2016 at 8:44 PM

        Awwww…You’re welcome dear.
        We thank God 😃💯🙏🙌

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    yougeecash said:
    March 20, 2016 at 9:17 PM

    😘😘😘😘😘😘😘
    One baby step after another. Glad to read this and know you’re better now.
    Hugs!

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      Dainty M responded:
      March 20, 2016 at 9:28 PM

      Awww, thanks sis for the care and concern! 🙂 X

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    sesanchuks said:
    March 20, 2016 at 9:20 PM

    Lively up yourself dear, no one would do that for you.

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      Dainty M responded:
      March 20, 2016 at 9:28 PM

      True indeed! Thanks Sesan!

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    didiscripts said:
    March 21, 2016 at 1:34 AM

    great to hear you’re feeling better. tried to drop a comment here yesterday but it didn’t deliver. wanted to mention that what has kept me thru seasons like these besides worship has been speaking out loud. declaring to God his word…like gisting with him n saying…u know what I know ppl don’t really really get how I feel but its relieving that you do and even tho I’m not feeling like you’re here now…I known that you are… I could keep rambling on and on…but I just got on with my not so much of a soliloquy… considering it’s just me n God chit chatting. have a blessed week hun!

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      Dainty M responded:
      March 21, 2016 at 10:26 AM

      Oh that’s really beautiful! I do the writing to God part but I’ll definitely give a shot at speaking out loud to Him. Thank you so much for sharing! 🙂

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    kokodownunder said:
    March 21, 2016 at 2:29 AM

    “The night can never stop the day from breaking forth.” I love that so much; it is so true! This too will pass. ❤ Also, I loved how you differentiated between happiness and joy – ah, there is such a difference! Happiness is for a moment, but joy is everlasting! It's possible to go through the most toughest storms and yet still have joy because you know Jesus. ❤

    I'm so happy to hear that you are doing better, Mfon! I've been praying for you! Thank you for this reminder of the victory that has already been won for me. ❤

    xo Koko

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      Dainty M responded:
      March 21, 2016 at 10:27 AM

      Thanks Koko for all the love and encouragement! 🙂

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    Sarah said:
    March 21, 2016 at 3:44 AM

    I’m so glad that you’re feeling better now, and what a valuable lesson to take out of it! :’) I totally agree that joy comes from God and that it can truly overpower suffering! How incredible! 😀 ❤

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      Dainty M responded:
      March 21, 2016 at 10:30 AM

      Very true. Thank you Sarah! Glad I’m better now, can’t wait to get to the happiness tag 😀

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        Sarah said:
        March 25, 2016 at 5:17 AM

        Ooh, and I can’t wait to read it! 😉

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    wunmib said:
    March 21, 2016 at 10:10 AM

    Ohhh hunnay… You will be fine.. God is always there, ready to pull you into his arms.. One love ✌✌

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    GraysBibi said:
    March 21, 2016 at 11:42 AM

    Good to know this hun! I’m happy for you! The devil can only try.. 🙂

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      Dainty M responded:
      March 21, 2016 at 3:24 PM

      Yes but he can’t keep us down. Thanks dear! xx

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    Opeyemi said:
    March 21, 2016 at 11:56 AM

    Impact,accept,learn, grow and expand. This are lessons you will learn again and again in different twists as you go along, even life coaches have their moment. When you bounce back, it’s key to learn, grow and expand.

    All the best.

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      Dainty M responded:
      March 21, 2016 at 3:27 PM

      So true! Thank you Ope! 🙂

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    Chanel Bailey said:
    March 21, 2016 at 5:55 PM

    Hey there lady! So glad you were able to shake yourself free and refocus on spiritual priorities! So happy for you! Now I need to take your advice this am and do some shaking myself!! Iron sharpens Iron!! Have a blessed Holy Week!

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      Dainty M responded:
      March 21, 2016 at 6:14 PM

      Oh thank you Chanel! It’s good to know you could take something from this. Yes! Iron sharpens iron; your posts have sharpened me as well 😀 Have a blessed week yourself!

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    ogo said:
    March 25, 2016 at 12:15 AM

    Aww…babes, you’ll always be good. God has your back, you need to tell yourself that every time. People will kill you with their words and actions without realizing they even did anything, but God understands, he gets it even more than you do!

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      Dainty M responded:
      March 25, 2016 at 11:40 PM

      Oh thank you so much Ogo for the reminder. Sure I forget that when things get tough but He remains faithful 🙂 God bless you dear!

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    Adjarho Michael said:
    March 26, 2016 at 11:55 PM

    Am glad it’s getting better or should I say it is over. He is bringing you up your feet. It’s a lesson i got from your post that we should learn to live from the spirit cos deep down in our heart is all we need to live the victorious live that He has called us to.
    ❇but am gonna hold you on something❇
    After posting, reading, commenting, feeling, sharing lessons and issues together YOU went on a shopping spree Alone and that frozen yogurt and pop corn
    na na……… I will hold you on that Lolllzzzzz.
    but indeed at last, I’m happy for you.
    Truly we can’t stay in our happy zone for a long time but we can as well don’t allow circumstances to deprive us from cherishing those beautiful moments in those times.

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      Dainty M responded:
      March 27, 2016 at 4:56 PM

      LOL! Mike, we could always do the frozen yoghurt and popcorn whenever you come around! Thank you for sticking through and for the new perspective you always present. God bless you!

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