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Selfie and Lessons Learnt -Day31

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Take a selfie and write what I have learnt in this past month


We made it!

We have successfully come to the end of the challenge!

All thanks to God who saw us through the month.

It’s been a learning process for me and I’ll try to sum up the lessons in these short points;

  1. I can achieve anything I set out to achieve as long as I remain committed to the goal- commitment pays!
  2. Stepping out of my comfort zone is really uncomfortable but it exposes me to new knowledge and insights- so worth it!
  3. I have no excuse to allow a day pass without adding value to a person’s life.
  4. Creativity cannot be put in a box- it has wings to fly!
  5. I have the most supporting readers ever! It could get really lonely out here but knowing I’ve got you guys is so heart-warming. Thanks! 😀
  6. It’s difficult to not get high on the praises and downcast with the criticisms-balance is always key.
  7. Most importantly, I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. So can you!

This was an amazing journey for me. As a matter of fact, the journey was the reward, not the destination. I learnt a whole lot and I discovered things about myself that I had never really thought about. It took lots of time and motivation to churn out posts daily but I’m grateful to God for His sufficient grace and strength.

Within the second week, I felt it was a mistake ‘cause I began to struggle to push through. But as they always say; some people give up just at the edge of a breakthrough. On the other hand, if you don’t give up, you’ll discover the light at the end of the tunnel. So why give up?

Once again, I give God all the glory for His faithfulness. And I’m grateful to you guys for staying through the whole month. This isn’t the end. There’s so much more to come! Stay tuned 😉

I challenge you!

September is a great month for a 30 days challenge. So whatchu gonna do for the next 30 days that would add value to your life and that of others?

Close with Prov 22:29

Observe people who are good at their work – skilled workers are always in demand and admired; they don’t take a back seat to anyone. (MSG)

Seest thou a man diligent in his business? he shall stand before kings; he shall not stand before mean men. (KJV)

Oh yeah!!! Here’s the selfie (couldn’t pick between the two- selfie queen 😉

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I finally decided to go watch Mission Impossible- Rogue nation (I know, I know, I’m pretty behind on that) 😉

*Please drop your thoughts on the challenge in the comment section. Thanks!*

We made it! *whoop! Whoop!*

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Why am I doing this Challenge? -Day30

Why am I doing this Challenge?

Happy Sunday guys!

Today was a refreshing day for me in His presence; I hope it was for you as well.

So why am I doing this challenge?

First of all, I’m doing it because it’s fun. The topics are pretty interesting; the challenge was to use these fun topics to pass a message across. I pray the message in every post was clearly received. The challenge was also a platform for you to connect with the M. behind Dainty M. Believe me, I felt like a fish walking on land on some days. But I did it because of the goals I had set out to achieve.

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Lesson here; you’ll have to step out of your comfort zone sometimes to achieve desired goals. It may be really uncomfortable but I can tell you it’s worth it. 🙂

Secondly, staying committed to writing for 31 days is freaking hard!!! As a matter of fact, I can’t remember being so committed to anything like this in my life. There were days when I couldn’t come up with stuffs to write but I just had to because I wouldn’t want to disappoint God as well as my esteemed readers. “Let your yay be yay, and your nay be nay…”  That’s about standing firm in what you’ve said you would do. So hey, if I had made the commitment to put up posts for 31 days, I had to deliver.

Thirdly, I did this challenge to connect with my readers through the feedback mechanism. It’s amazing how much I learnt from my most esteemed readers. There were new insights I had not uncovered and every moment I spent reading the comments was enlightening. I also learnt how not to sway to the accolades and criticisms. Pretty hard though but I thank God for His sufficient grace.

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This has been an incredible journey and I’m grateful to God for every part of it-including the highs and lows.

I challenge you to try out something that adds value to your life as well as others. Always remember this:

I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me- Phil 4:13

Please be reminded that this isn’t the only stuff out on the blog so please feel free to explore the other categories 🙂

For those who thought I had “Forsaken” them, please I apologize for the delay, the grand finale of the Forsaken Series will soon be out *Watch this space!!!*

Gotta run off now and prep for the week ahead.

Have a glorious week guys!

© Mfon Etuk, 2015

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Something Not Many Know -Day29

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Something Not Many Know

Happy weekend guys!

It’s two days more! *sobbing*

This has been fun and I’ve learnt a whole lot from you as well. Thank you guys!

For today’s challenge,I’m gonna say something that most people don’t know.

Hmmm *scanning through memory files*

It’s a tough one though.

Something many people don’t  know is that I do believe in fairy tales. I actually believe in a world full of sunshine, beautiful butterflies and castles in the sky. I even dream that a fairy-god-mother would dress me up in some cute dress and a prince charming on a white horse (or Ferrari as the case may be) would come take me for a dance.And we’ll dance all night to the best song ever (One Direction lyrics) That’s so embarrassing, I know! 😀 

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But it’s interesting though. Such stories give me a picture of how beautiful imaginations can be. Why do we limit our lives to the present realities when we  could build big dreams and establish empires in our minds? Why do people read books or watch movies anyways? Probably cause they want to connect with something higher than what they can see in reality.

Yeah I’m aware that fairy tales aren’t real but I still like them because they are so creative and beautiful. And come on! who doesn’t love Love stories or happy endings? And of course, eating poisonous apples, waking up to true love’s kiss and dancing to soft music under the starry night? Well, I do! Lol. 

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Just as I believe in fairy tales and happy endings, I also believe in a place more beautiful than this. A place full of peace and tranquility, where the clouds are like cotton candy, with grand mansions and gold plated streets; with angels singing hallelujah choruses. Heaven! This keeps me going no matter how messed up life gets and it also takes away the fear of death. I am constantly reminded that this world is not my home and someday, I’ll unite with my Father in a place so beautiful beyond imaginations! 🙂

It’s okay to have imaginations- as a matter of fact have lots of them. Dream about beauty unseen, dream of what you would like the world to be like and then build those dreams. Don’t let them die in the womb. Birth new ideas that would change the world and add value to lives. Be creative! Be a world changer!

It’s always my desire that you live victorious lives!

Day 29 down, 2 to go.

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Five Places I Would Love to Visit and Why -Day28

List five places I would love to visit and why

With only 3 days left to the end of the challenge, let’s make each day count. I particularly love today’s challenge cause it has to do with travelling and that’s one of my favourite things. It’s got me grinning from ear to ear already. Hehe.

So tighten your seat belt guys, it’s gonna be a long ride to my happy place. 😉

Australia– Australia! A pure kiss of nature. I really would love to visit this continent in my lifetime. There are so many exciting places to visit and things to see including the Great Barrier Reef, the Sydney Harbour Bridge, Uluru rock, Warner Bros Movie world, Kangaroos, turtles and loads more! Plus, I’d get to visit Hillsong church as I’ve always dreamed of.


The wildlife in Australia is incredible (thanks to Nat Geo Wild channel) and I would really love to experience every bit of it. Suit up and watch the outdoor M. come alive!

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France- This is another beautiful place I’ve just got to visit in my lifetime. I’ll like to visit the art museums as well as the Eiffel tower (maybe, just maybe, he could come along and get a cue to propose at that sweet romantic spot *drifting into daydreams* Lol). 

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France is also known for bread and heck! I love me some bread. And perfumes…Oh my! Can’t wait to be showered in fragrances! Let’s toast to this trip with some French wine! *clinks a wine glass*

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Italy- Oh sweet Italy! With beauty awaiting the lens of my camera and the snapping of my fingers on the keyboard. I’ll really, really love to visit Italy with its picturesque scenery and dainty food. Uhhhh, pasta! Mama luvs pasta! *Faking an Italian accent*

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I’ll  love to visit the attractive spots in Italy including the Grand Canal, the Florence cathedral,the Colosseum, the leaning Tower of Pisa…you can bet that I would take lots of pictures of the artistic structures as well. Dear future husband, let’s have some romance in Rome *pun intended* 😉

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Greece- Another idyllic country to visit in Europe. After spending many semesters in school studying the works of Socrates, Plato, Aristotle… I’m way too curious to visit Greece. Perhaps I’d get some Greek inspiration to come up with some “M. Theories” and Ideologies 😀

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I would like to visit the Olympian temple of Zeus, Plaka, the Parthenon temple and the Acropolis museum. Dust your history books and let’s get schooled by the Greeks! *glasses on*

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Brazil- After a long debate about the last place to travel between Brazil and South Africa, Brazil won. That’s cause I should visit South Africa sooner rather than later. So Brazil it is! With its colourful carnivals and beautiful beaches. I’d love to take pictures of the ‘Christ the Redeemer’ statue, the Sugarloaf Mountain, Iguazu Falls, São Paulo zoo and a whole lot more! Let’s go act another Rio animation 😀

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Is it over already? *cries* I was so deep in my zone, writing about the places I would love to visit and seeing myself there. Don’t worry, I’d post original photos when the time comes. It’s no surprise that I’m thrilled about travelling and writing and I believe dreams come true! 😉

Close with some quotes;

Nobody can discover the world for somebody else. Only when we discover it for ourselves does it become common ground and a common bond and we cease to be alone. – Wendell Berry

Traveling – it leaves you speechless, then turns you into a storyteller. – Ibn Battuta

Your turn…

What five places would you love to visit?

Day 28 down, 3 to go.

It’s not over until it is!

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Five Top Moments in My Life -Day27

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Five Top moments in my Life

It’s another beautiful day! The sun is shining after a heavy downpour, the birds are chirping with careless abandon and I’m wishing I could hold back the hands of time so this doesn’t end already.

It’s been a journey with new lessons to learn everyday. Although we’ve got 4 more days left for the challenge, don’t lose hope. They’ll be freshly baked blog posts for you regularly. Feel free to explore the different categories on the menu. I also feature guest posts that are in line with visions of the blog. Check out the ‘Contact me’ tab for more information

Here are my 5 top moments in life so far;

5) Seeing my results; I’ve always pushed myself so much that I tend not to appreciate ‘good’ grades as long as they are not the ‘best’. Funny how God kept my ‘best’ grades for the last semester in university where I stopped trying so hard but just surrendered to His will. Turns out, He really does step in when we stop struggling to do it by our own strength.

4) Graduation; this was a big one for me. I had all my family and friends present to grace the occasion. Twas so beautiful! And of course, there was a lot of food and cake. I still reminisce that day and the happiness I felt  causes my face to break into a big smile 🙂

3) Birthdays; I love birthdays cause it’s a special day for me- a day to unwrap gifts and eat cake 😀 I try to celebrate every birthday with a few friends and family and it’s always been one of my top moments. Oh yeah, you also get to see the pictures people have of you when they make you their display picture for the day. Lol.

2) First day I spoke in tongues; this is one of the top moments of my life because for a long while I couldn’t speak in tongues and I felt crippled without it. Yeah, I had been baptised with the Holy Ghost but there was no evidence of speaking in tongues. It was so depressing to go for prayer meetings and hear people pray in unknown tongues and I’d be there struggling with the right or wrong English to speak to God.

When it finally came after much expectation, it felt strange; kinda like waking up to discover you can speak fluent Spanish. Prayers became smoother for me afterwards. I could easily pour out personal heart cries without being afraid that the next person would hear me.

If you praise him in the private language of tongues, God understands you but no one else does, for you are sharing intimacies just between you and him- 1 Cor 14:2 (MSG)

It’s important for Christians to speak in the Spirit as well as in our understanding. Don’t limit your Christian life to speaking in the understanding alone.  And if you’ve been like me, praying for tongues and yet not seeing the evidence even after the baptism of the Holy Spirit, don’t give up. It will come. And it will be an amazing moment for you like it was for me. Just hold on.

1)New birth; for every Christian, new birth is like a birthday to be celebrated. It’s a turning point from darkness to light; death to life. Sorry to burst your bubble, but no one is born a Christian in the real sense of it. Even when you’re born into a family of saints who speak in fiery tongues, that still doesn’t make you a born again Christian. There’s got to be a day when you consciously make the decision to surrender your life to the one who gave up his for you.

I don’t view Christianity as just a religion to be ticked when filling out forms-it’s more than that! It goes way beyond the church pews. It’s a relationship with the one who loves you the most and died for you. It’s a heart bubbling experience; the union with divinity. Words can’t describe it. No earthly knowledge or wisdom can decipher the depth thereof.

If you haven’t experienced this life transforming moment yet, please take some time out and say this little prayer;

Dear Father, I know I’m a sinner and I can’t help myself. I’m tired of struggling with the baggage of sins I can hardly even tell anyone about. I believe Jesus died for me and rose again. I believe my sins were nailed to the cross. I accept you as my personal Lord and Saviour. From today, I choose to live for you and you alone. In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen.

As short as that prayer may seem, it’s very powerful! If you said this prayer from your heart, please visit a Bible teaching church and get rooted in the faith as you walk daily in the newness of life. I’m excited about your glorious destiny!


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A picture of me last year and a picture of me now; how have I changed? -Day26

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A picture of me last year and a picture of me now; how have I changed?

Wow! It’s 5 days left. This is so exciting! Can’t believe it’s almost over. Thanks guys for being strong and for your constant encouragement. God bless you! 🙂

Today’s challenge is to put up pictures of me last year and me now; stating how I’ve changed. I think I’ve changed a lot. As a matter of fact, change is the only constant thing (even our new government promotes change).

We all change even without knowing it. I went searching through my photo albums, wondering how I had changed. The one that struck me first was a picture of my hair after I had chopped it a year ago. Currently, it’s all grown and full, I hardly remember I had cut it a year back.When making the cut last year, I felt devastated (even though it wasn’t such a big chop). But today, I’m grateful I did that. 🙂

Change can be positive or negative but you never remain the same way you were last year or even last month. Life changes us. People change us. God changes us. Don’t get too comfortable where you are right now, you need to start looking for positive ways to change before the winds of life toss you in the directions they deem fit.

Change is sometimes scary. I often tell friends I don’t want to be called a ‘woman’ just yet. Partly cause I still see myself as a ‘girl’. But I’m no more that little girl who ran around with cornrows, playing with careless abandon. Now I have responsibilities and a whole lot more to come. I asked my sister a while back how it felt having evolved from being single a couple of years back, to having a family to cater for including a kid. Of course, she’s handling it very well. But if you ask me, I’d say that change is super scary! But it shouldn’t be, if only we can learn to take gradual steps towards change. This stuff doesn’t happen overnight!

The Bible has many stories of how God has asked people to change locations, change their decisions, change lifestyles, change occupations etc. Take Abraham for instance; God asked him to change his location; God changed his name; God changed his family status. God is constantly in the business of changing us to become the true reflection of who He is. Don’t fight it. Let him change you. Allow him to mold you into the beautiful vessel of honor he sees you as.

If you’re like me, afraid of change, please don’t be. Change doesn’t have to be scary if you put your trust in God. Never forget that our heavenly father walks with us through the various phases on the path to total transformation.

Close with this inspiring quote;

Often times God demonstrates His faithfulness in adversity by providing for us what we need to survive. He does not change our painful circumstances. He sustains us through them. -Charles Stanley

Game time..

Let’s play the game of spotting  the difference in the pictures below; maybe it could help reveal ways I’ve changed. I particularly picked identical pictures taken at different times and different locations. Let’s see if you can help identify how I have changed. This should be fun! 😀

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*Please drop a comment once you spot the differences. Thanks!*

Day 26 down, 5 more to go!

Have a blessed day!

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Five Things I Hate -Day25

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5 things I hate

Hmmm, five things I hate *hand on my chin* Hate is a strong word though. I think  I’d rather use ‘dislike’. It’s normal to have dislikes and it’s also important that people respect  that. I’ve seen cases where people make their rules seem pretty clear to the world but overrule those of others. It’s like you want everyone to live by your rules and respect your dislikes and likes but see no reason why you should do same to others. This stuff has got to be reciprocal!

For me,here are some five things I dislike:

  1. Noisy places- this totally gets me nuts! It makes me unbalanced and disoriented-the scowl on my face says it all.
  2. Ill manners- no ‘please’, no ‘sorry’, no ‘excuse me’…Come on! These things are like a,b,c…
  3. Invasion of privacy (nosy)– it’s funny how people who barely know how to paddle their canoes would rather teach someone else how to steer their engine. Respect the personal space  puh-leeze!
  4. Lateness- I hate being late. There’s nothing more embarrassing than walking into a meeting when everyone else is seated. Geez! All those eyes! *shakes head to remove the image*
  5. Horror  movies- way too scary! They could give me nightmares  for a week!

Against  the above backdrop, I’d like to paint a few pictures on respect. I have a friend who hates seeing random stuffs on his desk. He could literally trash anything that isn’t his on the table and I respect that.So, I don’t go dropping my cup on his table just because it’s closer to the door or just cause we’re friends. Yeah, lots of people like using that excuse!

Another instance that could make this clearer is the ‘manners’ part of my  list. For instance, I feel it’s rude to leave someone on the phone while talking to some other person in the background and returning as if nothing happened. Yeah, we are best buds, but you’ve gotta respect the rules. That’s what friends do! 🙂

It’s okay to expect others to respect your likes and dislikes-its normal. But you need to respect those of others bearing in mind that yours doesn’t supersede others. It’s like implementing Nigerian laws on American soil- both laws are important but only valid in their designated territories. So while in Nigeria, you respect Nigerian laws and while in America, you respect the American laws. Enough of the analogies, I’m sure we all get the point. 😉

Let people know what you like or don’t like so you don’t have to be uncomfortable every time things you don’t like are done. But always remember to accord respect to others as well.

It’s my desire that you live victorious lives!

Day 25 down, 6 more to go.

Yippee! We’re getting there.

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