Posted in Diary of a Transitioning Millennial

DTM6

Dear Diary,

Today was a really good day *inserts dancing smiley*. Two good things were involved- food and shopping!  😀

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Friends do make the journey on earth a lot easier. They are there when you’re rejoicing and when you’re sad. As much as I claim that I make friends easily, over the years I’ve learned to value the ones I already have. I hold onto every one of them who saw me grow from being a child to a mid-twenties adult. As long as that time period is, there’s just a handful of them.

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Posted in Diary of a Transitioning Millennial

DTM 2

DTM (2)

Dear Diary,

It’s exactly one week since I made the biggest decision of my life. Not to marry him just yet, calm your horses! I mean the other big decision. And yeah, I feel a lot better. Finally January is over…were there like 2 months locked in one? Gee! It just felt like it’d never end.  Continue reading “DTM 2”

Posted in A-Z Blogging Challenge 2016, Awards and Challenges

Choices

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A friend of mine gave me the liberty to shop online for my birthday gift and I was so excited about it. 😀 I get to do what I love- shopping- and I also get what I love- a gift! I got right to it with such gusto as though it was a task that would earn me a pay check. I found my eyes straining as I had been glued to the screen for a little above 4 hours! Oh my! When did shopping get so hard? So many choices to select from. There were some I’d like but find out they were only available in smaller sizes 😦 While for some others I just couldn’t find the colours of my choice amidst the vast options. If you’re very selective as I am, you would go item by item, scrutinizing each product till your heart settles for the one- the right one. Sometimes ‘the one’ may just end up looking completely different upon delivery or it would not fit perfectly as it did on the model 😦

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So what’s it about choices? Why did God give us the will power to choose? Why doesn’t he just make the choices for us?

I call heaven and earth to witness against you today, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and curse. Therefore choose life, that you and your offspring may live- Deut 30:19 (ESV)

Well, I think it makes us responsible for the consequences when we make the choices ourselves. If not, we’d blame God in the end by saying something like Adam did;

The Man said, “The Woman you gave me as a companion, she gave me fruit from the tree, and, yes, I ate it.”- Gen 3:12 (MSG)

There would always be choices to make; what to wear? Who to marry? Where to school? What to study? Where to live? What to buy? And many more! But hey, don’t despair, don’t be confused, God still promises to guide and direct us while making choices. He gives clues to help us in making choices, for instance, ‘choose life’.

As you go on through the week, remember to seek God’s opinion when making choices and listen for His response and you won’t regret it! 😀

And your ears shall hear a word behind you, saying, “This is the way, walk in it,” when you turn to the right or when you turn to the left. –Isaiah 30:21

Thanks for reading!

3 down, 23 days to go!

Stay tuned to this site for the A-Z challenge! And yes, I’m still accepting topic suggestions 😀

Lots of love,

daintym

Posted in Inspiration

I’m Okay and I’m On My Way

Hey guys!

For those of you who have read the last couple of posts, you’d know I’ve been going through a lot and I really appreciate everyone who stuck with me through it! Thanks for the encouragement and prayers. It felt good to be on the receiving end of the encouragement!  😀

I’m glad to let you know I’m okay, and I’m on my way forward. The storm is calm and God’s peace has taken over. Thank God!

So I’m gonna share what I learnt from the past weeks;

Surround Yourself with ‘Encouragers’

I whined a lot about the depression and the bad breaks to quite a number of friends. The listeners listened; the encouragers encouraged me in the word, those who didn’t understand, still said something. A lot said the things I already knew. This reminded me of what Job said;

I also could speak like you, if you were in my place; I could make fine speeches against you and shake my head at you. –Job 16:4

This made me give a lot more thought to how I encourage others. Let’s face it, most of the things you hear, you already know. What makes the difference is the empathy and the understanding shown by the person encouraging. You don’t go saying stuffs when you have no idea what the person is going through.

It all lies in your hands

One of my senior friends took the time out to let me know the power to stop being miserable was in my hands. She understood my whining and empathized with me. But also told me that we are responsible for our happiness not other people. We determine how to react to bad stuffs that happen and how we let them affect us.

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This was followed by another message by Joyce Meyer that spoke about taking personal responsibility of what happens to us. There’s a limit to which people can help us. The bulk of the work still rests on our shoulders and our decisions.

Get your groove back!

So hey, I pulled out of the frumps and into some pumps and took myself out. Watched a really cool movie, didn’t even realize when I finished the pack of popcorn! Then I went on a shopping spree! Got a really cute dress, an amazing perfume and yeah I got a new chunky ring! 😀 Also had my favourite frozen yoghurt! Now that’s my happy place!  I forgot about the stuffs weighing me down and I even noticed how cute the clouds were on my way home. Like some soft pillows for the sky to rest upon. So adorable!

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You can’t stay in your happy place forever

Oh, shopping is my happy place ! I totally love getting new stuffs! 😀 But I found out you really can’t stay in your happy place forever. Reality kicks in like an unwanted guest. Not long into the week I broke down again. It was an implosion that caused an explosion as I attacked the people that came around me. I always had my moods under control but I just lost it that day and they saw it- and of course, it freaked them out 😦

True Joy comes from God

Happiness is easily triggered by circumstances and is often short lived. But joy! Oh sweet joy that comes from knowing God and how much He loves you regardless of your imperfections. I sought after that joy. Repented of my sins and turned back to His warm embrace. 🙂

I had to stop looking to people and things to give me only what God could give me– joy and peace! 

So dear one, if you’re still going through the sad phase, please cheer up. The night can never stop the day from breaking forth. No matter how stormy it is, calmness is certain.  Take responsibility for your life. Christ has already given you victory over this battle. Just arise and take it!

Have a super amazing week ahead!

Lots of love,

©Mfon Etuk, 2016

Feel free to share your thoughts! I look forward to reading them 😀

***Song for the day; Wanna Be Happy by Kirk Franklin***