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Night Files: Goodbyes are for losers

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Goodbyes are forLosersKaycee clutched the hands that had interwoven themselves with hers. The bus queue was long, typical of the first Friday of the month in Lagos. Buses were usually hired to convey church attendants to the Redemption Camp at the outskirts of Lagos and that left most commuters a little stranded, scrambling for the few buses that came by. None did today and for once, this didn’t bother her. The brisk after rain wind blew across her face sending cold shivers down her spine. She knew it was more than the cold that made her shiver. It had everything to do with Lanny who had said nothing for the past thirty minutes. Not after she told him the news. Read the rest of this entry »

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20 THINGS YOU SHOULD KNOW IN YOUR 20S.

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  1. Love and honor your mother and father. Learn from their mistakes. I know it sounds like nags but it’d save you the headaches in your thirties and beyond. Besides you don’t want your children to dishonor you also I’m sure. We often realize too late their importance in our lives.
  2. You are so much more talented than you’ll ever know. You don’t need to pay your way through protocols. You don’t need to sleep with your boss/ supervisor to get a promotion at work or better grades at school. Burn the late-night candles instead; put extra time to study and practice until you master your skill. Hard work still pays well and does not kill.It’s sweeter to enjoy what you have put your good work and effort into in peace than having scares of karma.
  3. Support, support, support. As a lady, women can actually build strong support networks. Don’t let few ladies with the “Pull Her Down” {PHD} syndromes discourage you from cultivating true relationship with your female friends.  Everyone needs it.
  4. Learn to feel your feels. Study and master your emotions and know how to react to different situations. Be a master of your expressions.
  5. This notion that women are the criers and men are the strong support systems need to be reconstructed. We all have the glands in us means we are both to use them to express ourselves. Men can cry too. Yes, they can and they should.
  6. Let go of past hurts. You cannot move forward if you keep looking back. Holding on to bitter experiences and regrets will stale your future. The only thing you should take out of a hurting experience is the lessons learnt because hurting people hurt people. People are going to hurt you; you choose how to react.
  7. Still speaking on the past and forgiveness, learn to forgive yourself. Learn to pardon yourself for the mistakes, the bad choices. Just go easy on yourself because you are your only cheerleader.
  8. Train your mind and intuition to a level that it gives you signs and warnings. This can be done by studying yourself intricately under different conditions. It’s part of maturity.
  9. Walk away from deceit. Still flowing from the above, when your mind is developed on your ideals and what you are about, you are able to depict the truth. Know when someone is flossing and is harmful or toxic. Stay away from them. Especially before getting into relationships or business partnerships.
  10. This life you have been given is a unique gift. Unwrap it, live it to the fullest. Nurture yourself and don’t be careless with it. Start early in making proper plans.
  11. Learn the basic skills and let yourself grow – from how to keep your apartment and its entirety clean, cook, socialize and network to how to drive a car.
  12. Don’t do drugs. It kills from the inside out. Read books, it fortifies your mind. Dance as often as you can, it liberates your spirit, soul and body.
  13. Learn to laugh at yourself. It is a good way to build a healthy self-esteem. Encourage yourself more than you beat yourself up. It’s really not that deep.
  14. Fear of the future. It is a state of mind you must learn to tame. Don’t let fear pull the carpet from under your feet. God has not given us a spirit of fear but of power, love and a sound mind. Think positive thoughts about the future and when those butterflies and unsure moments come, acknowledge them but believe in the greater future ahead of you.
  15. Learn to exhale, love deeply and be kind to others; especially those of low estate, and the lowest of low. The greatest currency in the world is Kindness. It never depreciates. Everyone can spend it. It yields greater return on investments.
  16. Do not compare yourself to others. It will do you no good. I know how hard this is but when you catch yourself doing it, please STOP for comparing yourselves one to another is foolishness.
  17. Eat healthy. Exercise. Take time to dance and play. Learn to cook for yourself. Don’t rely on noodles alone. The cooking skill will be useful in future.
  18. Your time alone with yourself is the healthiest thing you can do for yourself. You want to be present for others, you want to live long, and you want peace and joy, take time for you. You can’t heal another if you are sick yourself.
  19. Prayer is the secret code. It works every time. Keep up with your faith in God and always have the courage to use your voice wisely and strongly. Enjoy the highs and lows that come with being in your 20s but don’t be afraid to grow older. Live life to the fullest.
  20. Acknowledge your emptiness without God. In our frailty is where He shows up the most. He loves you so much. I can barely explain the love.

Thank you for reading!

Written by Nancy Ufia.

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I was so happy to have Nancy write for the blog and I hope this list helps you as you navigate through life 🙂 

Stay beautiful!

~M.

Truth Series; A Team

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A day will come when I would walk into this room and you won’t be here 

Your black orchid scent will cease from lingering 

Your music will stop playing in the background 

Your resounding laughter will fade away 

And all I’ll be left with are your memories 

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My Day in Selfies

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Hey guys! So I got tagged by the adorable Katie from Concealed Foundation for the ‘My Day in Selfies’ Tag.  Please check out her very lovely blog.  It’s a whole world of goodness and cuteness there! Thank you for the tag Katie! 🙂 🙂 ❤ ❤  Read the rest of this entry »

A letter to my parents -Day23

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A letter to my parents

Hi guys!

I hope you had a beautiful Sunday.

Well, I really like Sundays cause I get to go praise God with others and listen to empowering sermons.Then of course, eat the special Sunday rice afterwards and spend time with family. It’s just a restful day and a perfect day to recoup for the week ahead.

Parents have played major roles in our lives. They’ve been the guardian angels for us on earth. It’s important to take some time out and appreciate their efforts over the years. So here is the challenge for today;

Dear Parents,

Thank you for everything you’ve been doing for me. You’ve trained me in the way that I should go and I can’t depart from it. You’ve also given me all the vital tools to survive in life. Of course the training process wasn’t always fun. There were times when I just couldn’t get why you were so hard on me but I got to learn mediocrity was never an option. I had to be the best there was, even if this meant staying at home studying when my friends were out playing (it sucked at the time).

Mom, you’ve always paid attention to every detail about my life.  You even listened to words I never said out. Thank you for the love you showered on us. Thank you for teaching me how to stay strong and be who I am without excuses. The values and good manners you impacted in our lives go a long way in defining who we are today.

Dad, you’re my hero! As my only male model, you’ve set a standard so high, anyone that would break it would need to receive special grace from God 😉 . You always cheered me on even when I felt I couldn’t measure up to your expectations. Thanks for believing in me.

Thank you for teaching me the beauty in love, marriage and family. Most importantly, thank you for teaching me about God. Mom, I’ll never forget all the Bible stories you often shared with us. Thank you so much for being such a blessing.

Words are inadequate to express my deep gratitude to God for keeping you and to you, for loving us and molding us to be the best we can. Every single day I think about you, I bless God for sending me to the right family.  We’ve had our highs and lows; few lows where I even thought of running away- childish foolishness. But through it all, I realize that family remains even when everyone else disappears.

Thank you for being my parents; I couldn’t wish for any better. You are the best for me and I love you! 🙂

God bless you!

Yours truly,

~Mfon

Close with this word;

Children, do what your parents tell you. This is only right.

“Honor your father and mother” is the first commandment that has a promise attached to it, namely, 

So you will live well and have a long life.” 

Fathers, don’t exasperate your children by coming down hard on them. Take them by the hand and lead them in the way of the Master- Eph 6:1-4 (MSG)

Your turn…

Why not write a letter to your parents? It may seem silly at first but I’m sure they would really appreciate it. 🙂

Have a blessed week ahead!

Day 23 down, 9 more to go.

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