20 THINGS YOU SHOULD KNOW IN YOUR 20S.

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  1. Love and honor your mother and father. Learn from their mistakes. I know it sounds like nags but it’d save you the headaches in your thirties and beyond. Besides you don’t want your children to dishonor you also I’m sure. We often realize too late their importance in our lives.
  2. You are so much more talented than you’ll ever know. You don’t need to pay your way through protocols. You don’t need to sleep with your boss/ supervisor to get a promotion at work or better grades at school. Burn the late-night candles instead; put extra time to study and practice until you master your skill. Hard work still pays well and does not kill.It’s sweeter to enjoy what you have put your good work and effort into in peace than having scares of karma.
  3. Support, support, support. As a lady, women can actually build strong support networks. Don’t let few ladies with the “Pull Her Down” {PHD} syndromes discourage you from cultivating true relationship with your female friends.  Everyone needs it.
  4. Learn to feel your feels. Study and master your emotions and know how to react to different situations. Be a master of your expressions.
  5. This notion that women are the criers and men are the strong support systems need to be reconstructed. We all have the glands in us means we are both to use them to express ourselves. Men can cry too. Yes, they can and they should.
  6. Let go of past hurts. You cannot move forward if you keep looking back. Holding on to bitter experiences and regrets will stale your future. The only thing you should take out of a hurting experience is the lessons learnt because hurting people hurt people. People are going to hurt you; you choose how to react.
  7. Still speaking on the past and forgiveness, learn to forgive yourself. Learn to pardon yourself for the mistakes, the bad choices. Just go easy on yourself because you are your only cheerleader.
  8. Train your mind and intuition to a level that it gives you signs and warnings. This can be done by studying yourself intricately under different conditions. It’s part of maturity.
  9. Walk away from deceit. Still flowing from the above, when your mind is developed on your ideals and what you are about, you are able to depict the truth. Know when someone is flossing and is harmful or toxic. Stay away from them. Especially before getting into relationships or business partnerships.
  10. This life you have been given is a unique gift. Unwrap it, live it to the fullest. Nurture yourself and don’t be careless with it. Start early in making proper plans.
  11. Learn the basic skills and let yourself grow – from how to keep your apartment and its entirety clean, cook, socialize and network to how to drive a car.
  12. Don’t do drugs. It kills from the inside out. Read books, it fortifies your mind. Dance as often as you can, it liberates your spirit, soul and body.
  13. Learn to laugh at yourself. It is a good way to build a healthy self-esteem. Encourage yourself more than you beat yourself up. It’s really not that deep.
  14. Fear of the future. It is a state of mind you must learn to tame. Don’t let fear pull the carpet from under your feet. God has not given us a spirit of fear but of power, love and a sound mind. Think positive thoughts about the future and when those butterflies and unsure moments come, acknowledge them but believe in the greater future ahead of you.
  15. Learn to exhale, love deeply and be kind to others; especially those of low estate, and the lowest of low. The greatest currency in the world is Kindness. It never depreciates. Everyone can spend it. It yields greater return on investments.
  16. Do not compare yourself to others. It will do you no good. I know how hard this is but when you catch yourself doing it, please STOP for comparing yourselves one to another is foolishness.
  17. Eat healthy. Exercise. Take time to dance and play. Learn to cook for yourself. Don’t rely on noodles alone. The cooking skill will be useful in future.
  18. Your time alone with yourself is the healthiest thing you can do for yourself. You want to be present for others, you want to live long, and you want peace and joy, take time for you. You can’t heal another if you are sick yourself.
  19. Prayer is the secret code. It works every time. Keep up with your faith in God and always have the courage to use your voice wisely and strongly. Enjoy the highs and lows that come with being in your 20s but don’t be afraid to grow older. Live life to the fullest.
  20. Acknowledge your emptiness without God. In our frailty is where He shows up the most. He loves you so much. I can barely explain the love.

Thank you for reading!

Written by Nancy Ufia.

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I was so happy to have Nancy write for the blog and I hope this list helps you as you navigate through life 🙂 

Stay beautiful!

~M.

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27 thoughts on “20 THINGS YOU SHOULD KNOW IN YOUR 20S.

    fortunate23 said:
    November 12, 2016 at 4:52 PM

    I love it!

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    fortunate23 said:
    November 12, 2016 at 4:53 PM

    Notes taken 📝

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    Courtney said:
    November 12, 2016 at 5:51 PM

    Awesome advice M.! So true that prayer and a relationship with God are vital to our spiritual health. Also, love how you took an opportunity to break down the gender stereotypes. Seriously considering doing a post on that topic.🤔🤔🤔🤔

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      Dainty M responded:
      November 13, 2016 at 2:15 PM

      Thanks Courtney! Yes, Nancy did a great job with the stereotypes and the post as a whole. It’s really important to stay spiritually healthy. You should write a post on the stereotypes, I would like to read it 😊

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    Emily said:
    November 13, 2016 at 2:57 AM

    I love this! I especially think learning to forgive ourselves and being in tune with our emotions is important. And of course, developing a deeper relationship with Christ so we can become whole in Him!

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      Dainty M responded:
      November 13, 2016 at 2:17 PM

      Thanks Emily! Happy you took lessons out of this 😊

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    oyide said:
    November 13, 2016 at 7:10 PM

    It’s lovely. The God factor, always 🙂

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      Dainty M responded:
      November 14, 2016 at 4:26 PM

      Yasss! Thanks Blessing!

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        oyide said:
        November 17, 2016 at 9:28 PM

        Thank God Mfon. 🙏🙌

        You’re welcome 😃💯

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    Abai TV said:
    November 14, 2016 at 10:22 AM

    *exercise* *Just strolling*

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    Damola A said:
    November 14, 2016 at 10:46 AM

    No 16&17..so hard!!😂😂😂

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      Dainty M responded:
      November 14, 2016 at 4:36 PM

      Hahaha! I agree with you! Especially no. 16…but then again, noodles! (@no.17) LOL Thanks Damola!

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    Victor 0chigbo said:
    November 14, 2016 at 11:06 AM

    Nice. Awesome words of knowledge and encouragements. God bless you.

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      Dainty M responded:
      November 14, 2016 at 4:37 PM

      Thank you Victor! (on behalf of the writer) 😀 God bless you too dear.

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    Light Ministry Blog said:
    November 17, 2016 at 8:10 PM

    I like your list, M. Several of them are spiritual in nature, while others call upon us simply to use God-given, self-driven skills we don’t exercise often enough. Good points!

    Steve

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    becksbetterbest said:
    November 19, 2016 at 3:04 AM

    This is wonderful, bunch of truths.

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      Dainty M responded:
      November 19, 2016 at 1:37 PM

      Thanks dear! (on behalf of the writer) 🙂

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    kelleysdiy said:
    December 5, 2016 at 11:51 PM

    Beautifully written with wonderful truths!

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