The Outside World

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The outside world also known as the ‘real world’ is a phrase I grew up with. It connotes the place where the magic happens, where freedom from parents and school authorities reigned. I went to Christian private schools (both secondary school and University) and a lot of times they would say stuff like ‘…when you get to the outside world’. It was frustrating to hear that phrase in university where other people seemed to be finally enjoying the outside world while we lived somewhat caged in by rules and more rules. But then again, I loved my school (Shout out to all who finished from Covenant University).

My school could easily be compared to the Utopian society; everything we needed was provided; there was no traffic; the environment was serene and sane; you could easily connect with like minds and sustain such relationships. Most interestingly was the way our spiritual lives were molded; we went to church almost as much as we went for classes; you could see people around speaking in tongues without looking weird. If I’m being honest, it felt like a lot of ‘church’ then. But in retrospect, I gained more than I could imagine!

Now I’m finally in the outside world. The place we counted down to, days to our graduation. The place we always dreamed of! Where we would finally be free from the clutches of rules and regulations to do what we wanted, when we wanted. Where we would finally be seen and respected as adults! Oh the expectations were so high! The excitement peaked!


Almost three years down the road and I’ll give anything to go back to the serene and secure four walls of my Alma mater; to be cradled and nurtured in the midst of other people who spoke faith and walked in style without feeling ‘overdressed’ (my school was pretty fashion oriented I must say). But I can’t go back! Even if I did, it won’t be the same. All my friends are in different places now, there’s no going back 😦

What ticked me off about the outside world? You may ask. Well, to be honest, the little things. The harsh realities of the world outside; the fact that some people are extremely cold and mean. Survival of the fittest is as literal as it sounds! Everyone thinks of how to survive, how to make more money and buy more stuffs even if it costs them their relationships with others and with God. Don’t even get me started on how it’s ‘lame’ not to have some bad history to brag about. You’ll probably hear folks say ‘you haven’t lived yet’ just because you haven’t done crazy stuffs! Painfully, you may just be coming from one pumped up spiritual service to get into a bus with ungodly music booming and gently sifting into your system. A world where evil prevails and good is slowly going extinct. A world where it pays to join the worldly trend than stay on the spiritual bend. A world where I am an oddity. To be honest, the crazy out here is overwhelming!

In the midst of all this, I’m reminded of this;

Let me tell you why you are here. You’re here to be salt-seasoning that brings out the God-flavors of this earth. If you lose your saltiness, how will people taste godliness? You’ve lost your usefulness and will end up in the garbage. Here’s another way to put it: You’re here to be light, bringing out the God-colors in the world. God is not a secret to be kept. We’re going public with this, as public as a city on a hill.  If I make you light-bearers, you don’t think I’m going to hide you under a bucket, do you? I’m putting you on a light stand.  Now that I’ve put you there on a hilltop, on a light stand – shine! Keep open house; be generous with your lives. By opening up to others, you’ll prompt people to open up with God, this generous Father in heaven. Matt 5:13-16 (MSG)

You can’t easily identify a light in the midst of other lights. The impact is minimal. To shine as light, you have to be in the darkness. And the way I see it, the outside world is pretty dark! To be the salt of the earth, you’ve gotta step out of the salt shaker (as comfortable as it is in there) and seek to add flavour to a rotten world.

I understand how tempting it is to dim your light in the darkness so they don’t hate you. If they hated Jesus, what makes you invincible? Oh, dear one! They will hate you for beaming your light in areas where they would rather hide in the dark. But that shouldn’t discourage you! Someday, they would come to the light. The bitterness will someday give way to your salt. You can never deny the power of light and salt! My pastor said ‘salt does not have to be as much as food to make an impact’. And that’s so true! You may feel you’re so small and insignificant in this large world. But you’re not! You can always affect the little corner where you find yourself.

So shine bright! Add flavour to the earth!  Be kind even when everyone is mean. Don’t allow the outside world harden your hearts. Don’t let the gloom overcome the joy of the Lord in you! Smile some more! Give some more! Love some more! Don’t be afraid of the outside world, for He is with you. 🙂

Happy New Month!

©Mfon Etuk, 2016


****Song for the day: Outsiders by Lecrae ***


40 thoughts on “The Outside World

    Stefphilz said:
    January 31, 2016 at 3:38 PM

    Wow.. Great piece Mfon. I totally love it..
    Keep going Gurl…


      Dainty M responded:
      January 31, 2016 at 3:41 PM

      Thank God. Thank you dear for your words of encouragement. God bless! ❤


    OJ Akoh said:
    January 31, 2016 at 4:15 PM

    Wow… Lovely! More grease to your elbows.

    Liked by 1 person

      Dainty M responded:
      January 31, 2016 at 4:33 PM

      Amen! Thank you! 🙂


    Olabamiji said:
    January 31, 2016 at 4:37 PM

    Oddity?…. That can’t be

    Lol: Yeah, I want to go back to school too, even though mine was not within fortified walls, neither serene nor sane, we don’t live by rules or pray all together like a church. But like you mentioned ” there’s no going back”….

    People saying one haven’t lived yet cos they haven’t done crazy stuffs… One just can’t blame them or write them off cos sincerely, it takes the grace of God to backslide and at the end come back into his manifolds…. Am not praising them am just saying it’s a good thing you don’t have a past and its best you keep it up.

    Yeah: there’s this thick dark light everywhere: Immorality, injustice and inhumane attributes at its peak round the globe but the Bible beckons “In the same way, let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven”, I had actually thought about caving in again severally 😟 but there a caution “No one who puts a hand to the plow and looks back is fit for service in the kingdom of God” just like ” if you are like lukewarm water, neither hot nor cold, I will spit you out of my mouth” all am saying in essence is, living Christlike is a duty, to ourself and to our next door neighbor/ looking at us and as such, you just cant afford to dim the light; for me I believe I can’t just change the world but I can change people around me and together we’ll change the world. Don’t be overwhelmed, you aint no oddity: there are millions out there making the same effort.


      Dainty M responded:
      January 31, 2016 at 4:42 PM

      Thank you for the encouragement and words of truth. Indeed we can try to change the people around us and in turn change the world. God bless you for this!


    Courtney said:
    January 31, 2016 at 4:42 PM

    Great post! Sometimes it can be a little scary, the thought of going out into the “outside world”. But, I just have to remember that God is with me and to keep shining my light 🙂

    Liked by 1 person

      Dainty M responded:
      January 31, 2016 at 4:48 PM

      Yes! He promises to be with us always! Thanks. Keep shining bright! 😀


    wunmib said:
    January 31, 2016 at 11:30 PM

    really nice… Proud of you Darling!!


      Dainty M responded:
      January 31, 2016 at 11:48 PM

      Thank God and thank you dear!


    El VUMA said:
    February 1, 2016 at 12:53 AM

    This has become my favorite piece! .. Lol


    Nkoyo said:
    February 1, 2016 at 6:02 AM

    Beautiful piece.well done


      Dainty M responded:
      February 1, 2016 at 9:50 AM

      Thank God! Thanks dear! 🙂


    espee said:
    February 1, 2016 at 8:59 AM

    Awesome post M
    Especially the “oddity” its soo unfortunate yet so true….but of cause God help us all


    kokodownunder said:
    February 1, 2016 at 9:35 AM

    Wow, this was so good! I’m not an adult and in “the real world” 😉 yet, but this totally spoke to me. Thank you so much for this encouragement, Mfon; this is *so* what I needed to hear! I am freaking out over how good that salt/food allegory was, oh my gosh that is awesome. O_o 😀 Thank you for being so honest, Mfon! This post is one of my favourites of yours; so good! Keep shining His light! He is with *you* too. ❤

    Koko 😀

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      Dainty M responded:
      February 1, 2016 at 9:53 AM

      Oh dear! You always have me grinning from ear to ear 😀 Thank God for His inspiration. Thank you also for your lovely words! ❤

      Liked by 1 person

    Ishanpepe said:
    February 1, 2016 at 2:18 PM

    You are shining the light Dainty M! Believe me your blog is a bright light. Thanks for this reminder… I must shine the light of God in me no matter how thick the darkeness around me is.


      Dainty M responded:
      February 1, 2016 at 3:55 PM

      Thank God! And I trust God for the grace to keep shining! Thanks dear 🙂


    officialnnamdi said:
    February 1, 2016 at 6:45 PM

    I really enjoyed reading this one. More grease to your elbows dearie. A difference it is and a positive one at that.


    oyide said:
    February 1, 2016 at 7:53 PM

    Yay!!! It’s about 3 years down the line already? Wow!!! The years indeed fly so fast 🙂
    You see, I had this eureka moment in 2014…it was then I realized the real world is legit different *I so have a Chapter of my shock experiences in my Book!*
    …In respect to the blog spree ideas, please send your email address to a Sister *smiling*

    Liked by 1 person

      Dainty M responded:
      February 2, 2016 at 10:26 AM

      Yes dear, it is! I’d like to read the shock experiences you wrote about. You could get my mail address from the ‘Contact Me’ page. Looking forward to receiving it 🙂 Thanks dear.

      Liked by 1 person

        oyide said:
        February 8, 2016 at 2:47 PM

        Great! You will def read that Chapter and more soon enough by God’s grace.
        Would send a mail soon…need to get in an inspiration zone soon by His grace 💯🙏😃


    maryrose921 said:
    February 2, 2016 at 5:50 AM

    Great post and so sadly, true, that we live in such a dark world. A world where sinfulness is elevated to almost a glorified status. Praise God for the light He brings into the world through people just like you! Many blessings to you!


      Dainty M responded:
      February 2, 2016 at 10:28 AM

      Amen! Thank you for stopping by and for your kind words. God bless you!


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    Adjarho Michael said:
    February 4, 2016 at 11:49 AM

    Wow. Wonderful again I must say from your great hands for writing this b£autiful piece.
    The Place where your misfortune and mistakes are regarded to be the best avenue to experience life. Some say you can never have a better live if you have not gotten the worst of experiences but I know experiences doesn’t make a good teacher; Knowledge does. being light of the world as the creator commanded us to be. It’s not a bad idea if we all come together to form a constellation but the lights will be important in the darkest of places. The salt is appreciated when it is able to penetrate the tight species in the pot. I guess the Outside world is the best place Christ wants us to be and it was evident all through his live journeys.
    Nice work


      Dainty M responded:
      February 4, 2016 at 12:16 PM

      Thank you Michael for the enlightening words. I pray we continue to shine bright. God bless you!


    Sarah said:
    February 4, 2016 at 5:57 PM

    Wow! That message is so powerful! Thank you for your truthful words! 😀 I love the allegory! You put it so simply and it just makes so much sense! 😉 Great work!


      Dainty M responded:
      February 4, 2016 at 6:10 PM

      Thank God! And thank you for the kind words, Sarah. Hey, thanks for the follow as well 😀 ❤ God bless!

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        Sarah said:
        February 5, 2016 at 4:21 PM

        No problem! 🙂


    demola said:
    February 6, 2016 at 4:32 AM

    A beautiful piece dear! I’m inspired. its so lovely to know this wonderful write up aren’t fictions but real facts, not just that alone, but your own experiences. I pray that Almighty God continues to increase u in knowledge and wisdom.

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      Dainty M responded:
      February 6, 2016 at 7:39 PM

      Amen! Thanks dear. Stay blessed 🙂


    Chanel Bailey said:
    February 7, 2016 at 4:52 AM

    I echo the voice of all the previous commenter! This is a wonderful post! We need to keep our center on God more today than ever before. What we see around us should confirm that we can do nothing in the natural but the SuperNatural is where we find shelter, peace, provision and everything else. Well done!😀

    Liked by 1 person

      Dainty M responded:
      February 7, 2016 at 4:15 PM

      Very true. Thanks for taking time out to comment. 🙂

      Liked by 1 person

    Tony Michele said:
    February 15, 2016 at 3:11 PM

    Hmmm. I can relate to the ‘culture shock’ – kinda glad I had mine in doses while still in the relatively serene and ‘provided for’ environment. “Boy, it’s cold out here…”

    Yes! That is sadly the reality of the world we live in – we’re in it but not of it. More teachings of being hated or being referred to as odd for His sake please! It is not always so rosy but we shall overcome 🙏🏾.


      Dainty M responded:
      February 15, 2016 at 5:15 PM

      Yes we shall. LOL @ culture shock. So true! Thanks for the comment Tony!


    beckylblog said:
    February 19, 2016 at 8:43 PM

    Lovely piece.

    Liked by 1 person

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