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Why do you do what you do?

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There are some people you meet in life and just know that you’re gonna do all you can to fight for them to remain a part of your life. One of such people is my soul sister. Read the rest of this entry »

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Mystery Blogger Award

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Hey guys!

So I was nominated for the Mystery Blogger Award by the lovely Beatrice from How to Start Adulting blog. She helps young adults navigate the murky seas of life. Her blog is fun and enlightening! Please check her out. Thanks again for the award, Beatrice! Read the rest of this entry »

Truth Series: Finding Myself

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Thanks to my Blogger friend, Blessing from Blessing Shares, I’ll be running a truth series every Wednesday (reblog from her blog) and Friday (my own post) of October. Basically the concept behind this is to share heartfelt posts with a lot of emotions that we probably would never have published on the blog. 😉

Please join us through this series as it promises to be exciting!

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I’ve set out a couple of times on a journey to find myself. To dig into my soul and answer the never-ending questions of ‘Who I am?’ ‘Why am I here?’ ‘Why me?’ Believe me, it never stops! You may find the answer at the beginning of the year but mid-way, you totally forget who you really are. Or someone asks you and you start fumbling for words.

I think self-finding is a never-ending quest. Because as you grow, you begin to learn new things about yourself. Things you detested may even become your favourite things. You begin to build capacity in areas where you lacked and so on.  Read the rest of this entry »

Weekend Extra: Q & A

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q-and-aHey guys!

How’s the weekend going? I hope yours has been better than mine 😊

I came across this funny symbol for the friend-zone and I couldn’t stop laughing at it. I mean it simply captures the whole situation where one person has feelings for another while the other person is just like; ‘we’re friends dude, nothing more!’ 😦 😦 

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M’s Musings: Of Adulting

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So I’ve been talking about the adult thing for some time with a couple of friends. Friends who are pretty new to the adult thing like me. I still have a lot of questions to ask. Like at what age does one really become an adult? 18? 21? When you become independent? When you get married? What even makes an adult? My dictionary defines adult as a fully developed person from maturity onward. Are the people we refer to as adults fully developed really? Or is it just the developed physical attributes we refer to?

If adulthood begins at 18, then I’ve swam in the pool of uncertainty for about 5 years. But I think the African culture recognises adults from 21, so that’s a bit more relieving that I’ve had 2 years of being uncertain about the adult thing. To be honest, I find adulthood a tad scary. It’s kinda like you suddenly become responsible for yourself. Parents withdraw monthly allowances, you become very vulnerable to the law, and you’re left to figure out life with no one to walk you through it. There’s really no dress rehearsal for adulthood, it’s almost like it just comes on you. Phew! Beads of sweat are trickling down my face as I try to analyse this.

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I still remember how much I wanted to grow up when I was a kid. I just wanted the perks of independence that came with being an adult. But now that I am, I’m almost wishing I could go back. So now you get to make your decisions knowing fully well you’re responsible for them. It’s no surprise my mind is in a constant state of busyness as I try to weigh every thought, every decision, every word on the pros/cons list. The need for perfection almost drives me insane. It’s overwhelming! I’m not done making decisions for myself and you’re telling me someday I’ll be a mom and would have to make decisions for my kids and family. Gee! Wouldn’t that drive me to insanity?

‘M, take one step at a time. Just breathe.’ You may say. But I’ll give you a thousand decisions I’m yet to make; a thousand thoughts fighting for prominence.

Does anyone really figure out the adult thing? Are there rules that guide everyone? For someone like me who loves rules, are there rules to follow? Within my short time of ‘adulting’, I’ve seen those who don’t play by the rules and it works great for them. And those who abide by the rules are called safe and boring. It’s all confusing!

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Yeah sure there are adults who have gone before you and can teach you the ropes. But can your life really be tailored in the same way your mom’s was? Do the same rules still apply? Okay, I really need to hear what you guys have to say about this. I really want to learn from your thoughts and experiences. Thanks!😊

daintym

Get To Know Me Tag

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Thank you Katie from Concealed Foundation for tagging me! Katie’s blog is such a beauty! You’d catch yourself smiling while reading her posts! 😀 ❤

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So let’s get to it!

Vital Stats

Name: Mfon

Nicknames: I’ve had quite a number of nicknames- but lately ‘Writer’s Brain’

Place of Birth: Northern Nigeria

Firsts

Best Friend: Her name is Nene, I’ve known her all my life!

Award: First award, does Primary School prize giving count? 😀

Sport: Lawn tennis

Real Holiday: Christmas holiday! The fun family road trip to my hometown.

Concert: haven’t been to any- well because I’ve got phobia for crowded places. 🙂

Favorites

Film: The Holiday- the one with Cameron Diaz

TV Shows: Too many to pick from! How I Met Your Mother, Friends, Melissa and Joey, Happy Endings to mention a few.

Color: All shades of blue 😉

Song: Currently, ‘Lost in the Moment’ by NF

Restaurant: Not sure I have a favourite restaurant. Any place with good food is fine by me!

Books: Do devotionals count? Because lately I’ve been slightly obsessed by devotionals by Cindy Trimm, Max Lucado, to mention a few.

Currently

Feeling: A little bored.

Single or Taken: Depends on who is asking 😉

Eating: Just had rice and fish stew

Wearing: A green and blue checkered shirt, grey skinny jeans, and my favourite sneakers.

Watching: The letters show up as I type them (stole this from Katie but I find it very descriptive! 😀

Future

Want Children: Definitely!

Want to Get Married: Obviously! 😀

Careers in Mind: Media Communications specialist, traveler and youth coordinator

Where You Want To Live: All over the world! That’s what being a traveler means to me 😀

Do You Believe In

God: Yes!

Miracles: Yes!

Love At First Sight: Yes in the movies, but no in real life.

Ghosts: They sound scary but nah.

Heaven: Definitely! This my hope for living and dying.

Hell: Yeah. Keeps me constantly in check.

Kissing On The First Date: Nah.

Yourself: Learning to believe in myself because God is in me and works through me.

I Tag:

1 Timothy412 Girl

Diary of a Blueblood

GraysBibi Blog

Adaugo’s Diary

Zidos’ Blog

Crystal Walls

Studiotj

Official Nnamdi blog

Forever Aspiring Writer

Sesan’s Blog

YouGeeCash

His Little Elephant

Lilacs and Stuff

Explosive Dreamers

TIMI

I hope you enjoy this as much as I did!

Lots of love!

daintym

Blogger Recognition Award

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Hi guys!

I have been behind on the award front and I finally had to pull myself from the ‘Post-challenge stress’ After writing through April, my fingers have felt a little stiff lately. Anywho, write I must and write I shall! 😀

Thank you TJ from Studiotj for this nomination. You remain a breath of fresh air! I love your blog and you guys should totally check it out for that little positive spin you need! 😀

The Rules:

  • Write a post to show your award.
  • Give a brief story of how your blog started.
  • Give two pieces of advice to new bloggers.
  • Thank whoever nominated you and provide a link to their blog.
  • Select 15 other blogs you want to give the award to.

I’ve always loved writing and it just made sense to own a blog. Got inactive for some two years and finally got serious in 2014. It progressed from random rambles to a purposeful blog and it keeps getting better! 😀

Advice One:

Stay true to yourself. Just keep being you. Write all you can and about anything you want. For the likes and follows, they will come. Just keep being you.

Two:

Keep friendships with bloggers beyond the ‘blogosphere’. This year has been exciting for me because I’ve been chatting with some bloggers outside the blogosphere and it’s so amazing! Beyond writing, making friends is a huge plus for me! So yes, I advise you to do same.

And the nominees are:

1 Timothy412 Girl

Diary of a Blueblood

GraysBibi Blog

Adaugo’s Diary

Fearfully Wonderfully Me

Crystal Walls

Concealed Foundation

Official Nnamdi blog

Forever Aspiring Writer

Sesan’s Blog

YouGeeCash

His Little Elephant

Lilacs and Stuff

Explosive Dreamers

TIMI

I hope y’all enjoy doing this award! 🙂 ❤

Lots of love,

daintym