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Just Friends

Hi guys!

It’s day 10 of the A-Z blogging challenge! *whispers* I think April is really slow 😖  J

So yeah, I’ve always wanted to write about the ‘dreadful’ friend zone but I’ve been unable to pull my thoughts together for a while.

What is it about the friend zone that makes it so dreadful? In order not to assume everyone knows what the term means, here is what it means;

Friend zone: this is when a person develops romantic feelings for someone, but the other person only sees the relationship as just being friends- Urban Dictionary

I usually joke and tell my friends my ‘friend zone’ is like a car park with different floors. The higher the level of zoning, the harder it can lead to anything. Lol.

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I’ve zoned and I have been zoned. Can I get a witness? 😃 However, it’s one thing to zone and say ‘hey, I’m sorry I don’t feel the way you do, can we just be friends?’ And it’s another thing to be on the receiving end. Maybe he knows you have a crush on him but he rather throws the line ‘we are just friends‘. Just friends?! Are you kidding?  (that’s my expression right there- picture below)friends

I don’t like the phrase ‘just friends’. Come on! Being my friend is not ‘just’. It takes a whole lot of persistence and endurance! To be there when your friend needs you. To love them even when you don’t feel like… To be honest, I’m not a pro in the friendship world but I’m really grateful to all who have taught me how to be a better friend.

I saw this picture (below) a while back on Instagram and I could totally relate! There’s nothing as sweet as seeing a good looking brother, witty with a good sense of humor that also fears the Lord and worships Him in total abandon *already daydreaming* But there is also nothing as sad as being ‘friend zoned’ by ‘the one’ *sobs*new church

 

But this right here hit me so hard and changed my perspective (picture below):ready

I couldn’t agree more with this! Be friends until you are ready. Besides, not all the people we meet in life are ‘the one’ or even meant to be dated. Some even call this testing the waters. Hello! You only get to marry one person, so what’s the need of having complicated feelings for everyone you come across? *reality check hun*

I know I have my thoughts scattered everywhere in this post but I’ll wrap up with this; there is nothing wrong in being just friends. Stay friends until you’re ready. Stay friends until you’re certain he/she is really ‘the one’. And when it doesn’t work out, still stay friends. Good friends are hard to find so cherish the ones you have!

Got any funny/sad friend zone stories where you zoned or were zoned to share? Please share! 😀

Lots of love,

daintym

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Imagination

/ɪˌmædʒɪˈneɪʃn/

The ability to create pictures in your mind- Oxford Learners dictionary

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It’s absolutely amazing how the mind can conjure up images; images of things seen and unseen. I’m always awestruck when I watch a really good movie, albeit fictional. I believe it takes a very imaginative mind to come up with such characters, scenes and stunts.

I spent the most part of my weekend on a movie marathon- it’s been a while I did that. Some other days I can’t seem to finish a movie in a day. This day was different because I watched five different movies on the spot. Yeah my eyes almost popped out at the end of the day from being exposed to so much light from the TV screen-but I digress.

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I watched Mad Max; fury road again. The first time I saw it, I wasn’t really into in. But this time was different. I noticed all the creativity put in play. I couldn’t even recognise Charlize Theron even if she stared me in the face- I think it was finally at the cast I found out she played the lead female role *face palm*

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Anywho, I’m not sure I’ve got a lot of Mad Max fans but you just have to applaud the creativity at work in that movie. Did you see their skin? It must have taken a lot to make them look so spooky and slightly irritating. All it took was for someone to imagine it! I’m pretty sure it did not come out exactly as the creative director had in mind but even so, it’s really creative!

There is no limit to the imagination of man! You do need to exercise this part of your mind from time to time. Don’t get stuck in the real world. So what if it doesn’t exist? Still picture it in your mind. The imagination is like a TV screen where you play all sorts of images. It is very important to filter what we imagine, however. For it is the things that come out from man that defile him, not the things he takes in.

There is nothing that enters a man from outside which can defile him; but the things which come out of him, those are the things that defile a man. – Mark 7:15 (NKJV)

Be mindful of your imaginations! Yes, there are no limits to the imaginations-that’s why you need to put some reins on it lest it runs wild and free. Lucifer must have had a very imaginative mind as well. He could picture himself being God and ruling over the world. This caused him his downfall. The dude didn’t even get to talk about it before God knew it- shows you how much God pays attention to our thoughts and imaginations.

How you are fallen from heaven, O Lucifer, son of the morning! How you are cut down to the ground, you who weakened the nations! For you have said in your heart: ‘I will ascend into heaven, I will exalt my throne above the stars of God; I will also sit on the mount of the congregation, On the farthest sides of the north; I will ascend above the heights of the clouds, I will be like the Most High.’ –Isaiah 14:12-14 (NKJV)

God has blessed us with powerful imaginations to create stuffs, to add beauty and value to His creation. In whatever sphere of life you find yourself, you can always create mental pictures and seek ways to bring them to life. If you can see it, you can achieve it.

As I said earlier, be mindful of your imaginations. Lust, covetousness, envy etc. are some of the things that can be expanded by the imaginations- please be careful.

I hope you imagine new things today and the rest of your life as you create new realities for yourself! New realities that would add value and beauty- not destroy and deprive others.

It’s always my desire that you live victorious lives!

daintym

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Happy Endings

HIf you know me well, you’d know I believe in happy endings! People like that are usually called dreamers or idealists or a bunch of other descriptive words in the dictionary.
I love watching romcoms (romantic comedy) because they give me the happy endings. They portray the fairly tale ‘and they lived happily ever after’. These movies leave me dabbing my eyes or day dreaming of prince charming riding a white Porsche (as a horse will look odd)
But reality wakes me up from my dreams every now and then. Reminding me that such happy endings can’t be easily found in the real world. You’d see a couple so deep in love and some years down the line, they divorce. That sucks! I can’t boast of having any happy ending chapter in my life either. So is it just an illusion.
Of course not! There is a happy ending. One that entails being transformed to a different body. I kinda see myself in sparkly skin or plain glitters all over. A happy ending that entails us being united with our Father. No more will He be invisible to us. We will see Him face to face and talk and laugh and praise! Oh my! Plus, there will be a lot of feasting and celebrating. We wont even cry anymore or get sad or feel pain! It’s going to be legen….
Wait for it…

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Wait for it…

Dary!

Its going to be legendary! I wouldn’t want to miss that for the world. So no matter what life throws at you, smile because you know your mansion with streets of gold awaits. 😊 I look forward to having you as my neighbours!

Happy weekend!

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Grace

Flowing from F, I couldn’t leave the topic of grace open ended.

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I had previously described grace as a gift derived from bloodshed (1 Pet1:18-19). Most of us are also familiar with the definition of grace as unmerited favour. Grace is the gift of God to us.

Why grace? Why couldn’t the world continue following some laws and expressing how good they were based on their strict adherence to such laws? There you have it! Men continued to falter because they couldn’t do it all. So God, being so merciful and also noting that the blood of bulls and lambs weren’t enough had to send His only son down for us. On a lighter note, can you imagine us leading a row of sheep to church on Sundays to obtain forgiveness for all the sins we committed? It would definitely look like a farmhouse!  

Knowing we couldn’t fulfil the laws by ourselves, Christ came and fulfilled the laws. How could He? Despite human constrains? Well, need I remind you that NOTHING can constrain Him! Not even death.

By fulfilling the laws and dying on the cross, Jesus presented unto us grace. How sweet the sound! That saved a wretched like me and you. 

For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God— not by works, so that no one can boast.- Eph 2:8-9

My name means the ‘Grace of God’ and 23 years down the line, I still can’t fully grasp this amazing phenomenon! Once in a while I even doubt if I’m really saved. You know we humans want to know we got certain things based on our efforts. Days when I do a lot of good stuffs I feel ‘hell yeah! God must be proud of me’ and days when I fall into sin I feel like crap and I can literally see a huge disappointed look across His face. But the truth is He is proud of us all the time. As much as He hates sin, He still loves the sinner.

It’s like a baby who poos in his pants. (I don’t think any one of us likes seeing crap). So yeah I hate the poop but I love the baby! If the baby accepts he pooped, instead of going around stinking and still denying he didn’t poo (it’s crazy how some of us are oblivious to our sins)– if he accepts that he is in a mess and comes back for a cleaning, I would do so by all means! Of course babies accept they are in a mess by crying or just being plain uncomfortable when they crap in their pants. But we could also do that when we sin; cry out to God! He knows we are in a mess but He won’t force us to come for cleaning. He knocks on the door of our hearts and beckons us to come. Only He can clean us from our stinking crap of sin. Maybe remembering how much sin stinks like crap in our pants will help us not to be careless with it. 😉

I cannot do justice to this topic in one post. But you could listen to messages by the likes of Joseph Prince and Creflo Dollar who preach majorly on grace.

Reflection

Are you still piling up your good works as though they can save you? Are you carrying a stinking pant full of crap (sin)? Accept you are a sinner and turn back to God for cleaning by His blood. Only He can save you.

If you’re someone like that please take a minute to say the prayer below;

Dear Lord, I know I’m a sinner. I ask that you forgive me and cleanse be from my sins. I believe you died and rose for me. I accept you as my personal Lord and Saviour. Come and make my heart your home in Jesus name. Amen 

Heaven rejoices when anyone says that prayer in all sincerity and with faith! Go and get rooted in Bible teaching, faith based church. I’m proud of you! And God is too! 😀

Lots of love,

daintym

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Forgive Me

Welcome to the 6th day of the A-Z blogging challenge. If you’re just joining us, feel free to play catch up on all the posts missed. 🙂

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Today’s letter is F and I was so tempted to write on food but oh well, other things are more needful.

I had messed up. I knew it, God knew it. I hated myself for it. Come on! At this point how can you still be making such silly mistakes? How can you fall when you’re supposed to be grown in the faith? I posed those questions and many more at myself. I was angry with myself. I had allowed my flesh rule me- whatever happened to living by the Spirit?

After a while, I finally went to go to God in prayers. Laying aside my self-righteous acts and seeking His forgiveness. Unsure He had forgiven me, I kept repeating the prayer all through the day. Finally He answered;

I have forgiven you, forgive yourself. 

That led me to a long banter about how my ‘self’ didn’t deserve my forgiveness.  I mean, there are times you do wrong and feel like you deserve a punishment. Grace doesn’t feel ‘good enough’. It’s not enough to say ‘go, your sins have been forgiven’. There should be something more! Something that will make me writhe in pain. So if God won’t punish my flesh for disappointing, I’ll do it myself. I’ll hurt myself by hating it or for some others, by inflicting physical pain. I may just be the only one who thinks this way at times.

Truth is, grace is always sufficient! God loves us so much. He sent His only son to suffer some gruesome death, for what? So we keep nurturing guilt after confessing our sins? So we hide away because we feel our sins are ‘too much’ for God to handle? So we hate our bodies and everything about it that disappoints us? Hell no!

Jesus could have just been shot! -Dunno if they had guns then– but you get my drift; they could have just stabbed him with the sword to kill him at once. Why the cross? Why the crucifixion? Why the slow death? So you see the gravity of it all! Grace was birthed from bloodshed. Grace was bought by the blood Jesus shed on that hefty wooden cross. Grace is freely given but is not cheap. So please, never for once treat it as a cheap commodity! Now that’s a topic for another day.

Some of us are still in bondage because we haven’t forgiven ourselves for unpleasant situations we believe we could have averted somehow. But God doesn’t hold it against us. He forgives us when we ask for forgiveness and He expects us to do same to ourselves.

Come now, and let us reason together, saith the Lord: though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they be red like crimson, they shall be as wool. -Isaiah 1:18

His desire is for us to be free indeed! Forgive yourself for the child that got wayward. Forgive yourself for the hurt you allowed. Forgive your body for the abuse it went through. Forgive yourself for the bad things you did… Let it all go! Embrace His finished work on the cross and His unending love for you.

It’s always my desire that you live victorious lives

Lots of love,

daintym

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Everything Beautiful

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There’s beauty around us but sometimes we get blinded by the not so pretty things in life. I guess this is why the Bible reminds us of what to think about.

Summing it all up, friends, I’d say you’ll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious—the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse. Phil 4:8 (MSG)

I’ll list 10 things which I find beautiful and we can continue the list in the comment section. 🙂

Here they are;

  1. A bride on her wedding day 

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  2. The sun when it rises in all its splendour 

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  3. Watching the choir sing gloriously in elegant robes 

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  4. Creamy licky ice cream on a hot day 😀 Phototastic-06_04_2016_fde4a8c1-9c4a-444c-9e8f-6cebce83a4e1 (1)
  5. A baby laughing with such cute chubby cheeks- adorable! 

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  6. A credit bank alert 😉

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  7. A couple in love 

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  8. A father and daughter dance 

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  9. Snuggling on a sofa watching movies on a cold morning  

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  10. Having new followers on my blog 😀 omg.gif

Well, this is a sketchy list as there are so many beautiful things around me!

What are some of the things you consider beautiful? Please share in the comment section. 🙂

Lots of love,

daintym

 

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Dance

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It’s the fourth day of the A-Z blogging challenge and the letter is D!

So why dance? (Why not daydream which I do a lot or dogs, which are cute as long as they aren’t barking at me) 😀

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Dance is an art. An art so intricately designed. It’s completely mind blowing how the body can move in such rhythmic strokes to music! I absolutely love dance and my favourites are hip-hop and contemporary. The union between songs in these genres and the body movement is simply amazing! Well, if you were wondering, I dance-but I’m still a ‘closet dancer’ 😀

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Dance expresses emotions in the rawest forms. If it’s anger, you can see that in dances like krumping. If it’s love, you can see that in contemporary or ballet. I’ve also learnt to channel my emotions to dance. When I’m sad, I dance. When I’m excited. I dance. And no, you won’t catch me dancing just yet 😀 Well, not until I go for proper dance lessons.

My love for dance started from watching a lot of dance movies (the likes of Save the last dance, You got Served, Honey, Stomp the Yard, Step up etc). I still daydream that ‘the one’ may just be my dance instructor or something *lovestruck*Lol.

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I’m not always happy when I visit churches and there’s no dance unit. Come on! This may just be the only talent some youths have and I strongly believe it should be harnessed to the glory of God. David in the Bible was equally a crazy dancer. There’s this popular song ‘when the spirit of the Lord is upon me, I will dance like David danced…’ Now that the Spirit is within you, wotchu waiting for? Dance!

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Dance is a beautiful art! It’s also a good form of exercise. Try out Zumba dance videos if you’re crazy about keeping fit 😉

I say this again, dance is a channel for the expression of emotions/feelings. Whether it is sadness or gladness, you can always express it in dance!

You have turned for me my mourning into dancing; You have loosed my sackcloth and girded me with gladness- Psalm 30:11

The joy of our hearts has ceased; Our dancing has been turned into mourning.– Lam 5:15

Don’t put dance in a box, let dance flow. Be as creative as you can with dance, that’s the beauty of it!

So how about you- do you dance? What’s your favourite type of dance?

4 down, 22 to go!

Lots of love,

daintym