Day 11: Your current relationship. If single, discuss how single life is

Ah yes! That question that we’ve all been waiting for. Haha.

*Drum rolls*

I’m single. Boy! am I to get all philosophical about the single life. Sit tight for this.

Let me first introduce myself as Cupid, meaning I really love ‘love’ and relationships. I’ve also been profiled as a ‘fierce lover’ (just tryna be like my Father in Heaven who loves us to death and back) 😉 To be honest, it’s been a bumpy road on the way towards love. I’ve fallen countless times and have had some scars, but I’m not giving up. I still believe in love. I still believe it’s the light in this dark world and a hope for living.

Anywho, I’m in a very good place right now. I’m not eager to be in a relationship, despite all the windows of opportunity (issa fine geh something) 😂😍. What I’m tryna say is that I’m more strategic and deliberate about what I want. Above that, I’m enjoying finding myself. Like, I’m literally in that space where I don’t have to keep tabs on some major stakeholder in my life. I don’t even have to make my life decisions to align with anyone else’s. I can travel, explore the world, learn from my mistakes and just bask in being a complete individual. I can buy shoes for myself without thinking of someone else 😏

This space that I’m in reminds me of my roommate. I love her dearly and I enjoy her company. But anytime she’s out of the room for a night or two, I feel this sorta liberation that I’m describing in my single life. Like, I don’t have to worry about getting in anyone’s way. I don’t even have to know what I’d cook (I know I’m dead if she reads this). But yeah, that freedom to run around in the room, be silly and dance in front of the mirror without worries is how I feel right now.

A perfect space where I don’t have to explain myself to anyone, and I don’t have to bend to fit another person’s life.

Albeit, once a couple of days pass and I don’t see her, the excitement turns into anxiety and my missing her. That space isn’t saying, ‘To hell with men and marriage,‘ but rather ‘I know marriage is gonna come sooner or later, but for now we rock our socks off!‘ 😎.

Most people like relationship gist, and I’m tryna avoid adding to the pool of clichés. If you’re in a relationship, make the best out of it and enjoy the journey. If you’re single, remember you’re not incomplete and bloody go have the most fun of your life!

PS: making a bucket list of all the stuff you’d like to have tried before getting married is a fun way to stay preoccupied. You’ll thank me later.

Your turn- So give me gist! What’s your current relationship status like? I want the rosy details! 🙌😘

Love,

M.