q-and-a

 

Hey guys!
Happy weekend!
Hope your weekend is really chilled… Raise your hands if your weekend is all ‘stay at home and Garfield’ 😂🙆🙋
Yay! It’s Questions and Answers! 💃 I love this feature because I get to learn a whole lot from you all. Thank you for that! ❤
So yeah, the whole talk on marriage keeps reoccurring. As you reach your 20s, society consciously or unconsciously puts pressure on marriage by constantly asking ‘when are you getting married?’ Or ‘is that the one’ for every picture you have with an opposite sex.
Although, we know better than to allow society pressurize us into marriage and all,
I have to ask…

How old is old enough for marriage?

Are you most marriable only in your 20s or 30s? Or do you still have great chances of getting married in late 40s and 50s? How about those who get married at 18, or 19? Too young?

So guys, please state your response in the comment section. How old is old enough for marriage? Please give you reasons for the age range selected.

Remember you could reply another person’s comment respectfully. No opinion is irrelevant please. Thank you!

Have fun answering! 😊
Love,
~M.

31 thoughts on “Weekend Extra: Q and A”

  1. My weekend is all sleep and read novel 😁😁
    I honestly believe anyone can marry at any age so far you find the person that you want to spend your days with.
    Lol, who even set the age of getting married? You can marry whenever you want I think. Also I’ve always thought 18, 19, even early 20’s are too young because honestly to me I feel like you don’t yet know what you want and all but whatever.
    People think they have to get married early for children bearing sake and whatever else and I used to think so but let’s get this straight, the primary reason for marriage wasn’t about children. Going back to the garden of eden it was about companionship and that’s what we should always remember. Children can come as bonuses but companionship was why God created Eve for Adam.

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    2. Hi!
      I think it is definitely different for different people. I remember having a classmate while in college, he life’s goal was to get married! That was what she wanted more than anything. It was not really because of pressure from anyone, because her older sister was not married yet. I call them the ‘marriage type’ and it is cool. But not everybody is the ‘marriage type.’ This does not mean non – ‘marriage type’ – people do not want to get married, but they are not as crazy about it as the ‘marriage types.’ I do not think that there is a right or wrong here. People are just different and are passionate about different things. Some people need some more time to achieve other things or at least find the person they can achieve those things with, while others just learn all they need to know on the job!

      I have heard of people that got married at 18 and are doing fine, heard of one lady today that got married at 60. Personally, I will not choose either 😉 but somewhere in the middle is fine. In the end though, I think that God decides when the time is right and it will be perfect.

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      1. I like the marriage type distinction. That really explains a lot. 😊 Yes I agree, God defines the right time and orchestrates the right ones our way. Thanks for joining in!

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  2. I don’t really know the answer to the question on the marriageable age per se *haha* I do know that you should tend the transition season into marriage prayerfully.
    It’s more of a question of readiness, ‘how ready are you to build a family’.
    The answer to readiness is in this order I believe… Find God, find yourself, be found by your spouse (permit to speak for the ladies) 🙂
    Basically, yep… When you’re ready, get married.
    The notion is most people are ready in their 20s…that’s why we see a dominance of marriages taking place at that age.
    Marry when you are ready. Yes!

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      1. Yep…we sure do need to get ready… Read some books on marriage and courtship, attend pure relationship seminars, listen to great messages on marriages et al.

        Pray! Pray! Pray! All the way 💯🙏

        You’re welcome dear. Thank you for the session too 👍😃

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  3. seriously i will really like to lend my opinion but D.M and Blessing sincerely have taken the word outta my mouth.

    Permit me to quote blessingshares thought “the answer to readiness is in this order I believe… Find God, find yourself, be found by your spouse (permit to speak for the ladies)” I totally agree with your assertion blessing and its not meant for ladies only but for guys too.
    its not advisable from my own point of view without finding out who you are before jumping on the ship of marriage.

    Before any sexes start thinking or marriage, maturity is suppose to be the determinant factor. Maturity has nothing to do with age factor plus I think it should be obvious for any person who is a keen observance of the marriage institution that having a lot of wealth and influence does not equal a successful marriage. that statement is especially true for we guys (some of us though)who want to have it all before having an idea about marriage.

    I would love to type more but my keypad is kinda acting up

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    1. Lol, sorry about your keypad. I like how you pointed out that amassing all the wealth doesn’t equal readiness. Cos a lot of guys are chasing after wealth than trying to become the holistically ready-to-marry man 😃 Thanks for contributing!

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  4. This is an interesting question! I’m not sure I can answer with an absolute, as it’s different for everyone. God may be leading one person to something and another to something else.

    Nonetheless, overall I believe most people aren’t ready younger than about twenty five. There are some exceptions, but overall this seems like a reasonable age. I don’t really think there’s a cutoff date – I just wouldn’t recommend marrying while still in college and/or trying to launch a career.

    One thing I’ve noticed in conservative Christian circles is that people start focusing on it WAY early! I just got to college and some of my friends are Already spending a lot of time talking about marriage and their future spouse! I suspect it could be because the church doesn’t always know what to do with young adult singles, but IDK. Any theories?😂🤔

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    1. Hahaha. Well, I think conservative Christian circles start focusing on this really early because most youths are in their sexually active years. So marriage is a good way to curb sexual immorality in that regard. 😊 I also think 25 is a reasonable age.. Based on the assumption that college should be done and dusted and one should have found God and found themselves then. But if those haven’t been done, then I guess any older age works fine. 😃 Thanks for joining in!

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      1. Ok, that makes sense I suppose.😂 I’ve just been noticing that a lot more lately and trying to figure out the gigantic rush. Great question by the way, I love these weekend Q&As!😊

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  5. The right age to get married especially as a woman is when you grow up! Lol this can be at 18,25 or 50. I wanted to get married at 21 but now at 28 i am glad I didn’t cos i would have been divorced by now. Marriage takes maturity, the ability to shut up sometimes and know that you dont have to win every battle. It requires the strength to compromise and bend alittle to meet each other half way and you see at 21 i had none of this. My grand ma on the other hand was 14 when she got married and she stayed married for decades so my love there really is no right age, only a right state of mind

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    1. Very interesting point raised. Age doesn’t always depict maturity. Some are in their 30s and not fully mature while others are in their teens and act like grown ups. Lol.
      Btw, your grandma is my #RelationshipGoals 😉

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  6. I think it really depends on the person and how mature they are (and also when God decides). It definitely shouldn’t be rushed–especially if you’re young because it’s a huge commitment. At the same time we shouldn’t be afraid either. And no, I don’t think you can be too old to marry!

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  7. This weekend was quite stressful but it was an exception. Normally, I spend it reading and catching up on sleep.
    Back to the question, I don’t believe there is an ideal age for marriage because for you to want to get married, you have to be mature and ready and this doesn’t have anything to do with it. A lot of people don’t understand what it really means to be married and it is a recipe for disaster. I feel that once you are ready and understand that this thing I am going into is a partnership, its not just me, I am not a unit anymore. The issue a lot of people reach this point at different times, some people really need to understand themselves first and do things. There is also a spiritual aspect of this, are you ready to do this spiritually? Many issues to consider…

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    1. Aww, sorry about your stressful weekend. Hmm, marriage is a partnership and we sure need to leave our selfish units to take this up. Maturity and readiness resonates with every other comment and I think it’s really key. Thanks for contributing!

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  9. Wow😋/🍔🍟🍖
    I was wondering what I haven’t done thus week only to find out that I haven’t read your post for the week. This is succinct.
    Its like these guys have been waiting for a post as this and the comments “All Educative “. Quite a Question ⁉ and the comments leaving me not knowing where to begin.
    ♓🅰♈ℹ🆖 said all. In addition I just want to chip this question in “but not adding another to yours lolzz” cos they may also play a clue in answering your question.
    What is my perspective and my definition of what marriage is?
    What was the original plan of the one who instituted it?
    What do i want in a marriage 💍 ?
    The famous question ” if I know all that I know about myself, will I marry me?
    What is my definition of too old, too late or late?
    When is God too late cos I remember they said God’s time 🕒 is the best. Evenwhen he is 4 days late as in the case of Lazarus, He was still on time.
    What am I doing while waiting for his time ⏰
    Where will the Mr 👨 and Mrs 👩 right 👉 meet me.
    A sincere answer to this and many other questions posed by comments above can give a clue on the question you asked M.
    regarding age disparity @19 or 20 is too early they say and @30 upwards they say it is too late 🏃💨. There must always be comments but mine is let it be at the right time only if we still believe there is always a right time.
    My conclusion would be that God should prepare us for what he has prepared for us and prepare us for what He is preparing for us.
    HNM

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    1. Amen! Thanks for the detailed response. Indeed, those questions need to be properly answered to determine one’s readiness for marriage. And the smileys! Me likey! 😀 Thanks Mike!

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  10. Lol. I’m not even up to 20 but I should share my thought. Marriage especially Christian marriage is a whole lot of devotion which the mind might be too little to comprehend or the body might be too weak to fascinate. At an early stage most don’t understand what it’s all about and it would be so wrong if you dive into it then. Marriage requires maturity of both the man and the woman to handle. At a late stage? That isn’t wrong but we can’t deny the truth that marriage is not all about companionship. We still need to procreate as this is only when God permits us to do so; when we’re married. With everything said, I’ll state that there isn’t a particular age range for marriage but consider the factors above and don’t forget maturity is not all about age but experience and lessons learnt. Also as a guy you don’t go to dine with kings using a plastic spoon. ( can you handle the escapades of marriage) even as a lady, think on that.
    Amazing work you’re doing Dainty!

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