Letters to the Depressed 4

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LTTDThanks for sticking with me from the first letter, to the second, the third and now. I may be writing this to help you but it is helping me more. I think letting things out in the open helps. It makes us know we are not alone. I like listening to NF music because he says all the right thingsโ€ฆthe things I feel. In his words, โ€˜this is therapy for meโ€™ ๐Ÿ™‚

Depression and loneliness.

Sometimes I think it’s aย cause and effect relationship, where depression causes loneliness or is it loneliness that causes depression? I don’t know anymore. Maybe it works both ways. Being lonely often gives room for the depression to invade completely. While being depressed also pretty much drives people away, leaving you lonely.


Isn’t that all the devil wants? To keep you so far from help and fill you with negative thoughts. Suffice it to say loneliness and depression go hand in hand.

Diary Entry

I didn’t know how lonely I was until Grey kept asking. I felt bare for a second. I felt naked, it hurt. The shrubs couldn’t cover the open wounds of hearing him say ‘you are lonely’. How could that be true? I have you Lord. I know I haven’t been able to open up to anyone about how I really feel and how much I struggle with. But that doesn’t matter because I have you. Right? Then why do I feel like I’m sitting here alone or walking alone. The familiar faces are so distant. Everyone feels alien to me. I know I hurt. I know I should talk to someone. But nobody understands me. No one to trust. But you Lord. And I should be fine with that. I don’t want to crave for human relationships. I just want to be alone. With you.ย 

Looking back at this diary entry, I understand the huge difference between loneliness and aloneness.

True aloneness is the absence of God.

While loneliness hinges on the desire to have intimate relationships with others. So while you may have a sound relationship with God and be forever aware of His presence, you may still be like me in that entry. Sometimes you may be surrounded by people but still feel lonely. If youโ€™re a Christian, then you understand you can never be alone because God is with you. If you aren’t, then you need to get to know Him and just how much He loves you!

And the loneliness problem?

God said, “It’s not good for the Man to be alone; I’ll make him a helper, a companion. -Gen 2:18

He created other humans to solve that! God recognized that โ€˜it is not good for man to be aloneโ€™. Note here that man already had a relationship with God, so He wasn’t referring to the aloneness that comes from not knowing God is there and He cares. God knew weโ€™d get lonely and crave relationships with other humans. I have a post on this and it would soon be up on the blog.

I’ve seen some interesting quotes about loneliness and how addictive it can be. It makes you detest being around people sometimes. Admittedly, that’s true. For me, I enjoy being alone especially when I’m depressed. But somewhere within me, I want someone to reach out. To talk to me. To be there. And it’s normal for you to feel that way because we weren’t created to be lonely beings. It’s fondly said that no man is an island and that couldn’t be any truer.

You need to be with people who love and care for you. Surround yourself with positive friends who will help you get through the depression or whatever vices you deal with.ย  Please, don’t get addicted to the loneliness and the pain. Let people into your world. Allow them to help. They need you. You need them. Even Birdy, who I love listening to in such moments, sang; โ€˜people help peopleโ€™.

I’m writing this so you know you’re not alone. I’m here to help you by God’s grace. You can always send your letter or a prayer request to contact@daintym.com and I’ll encourage you as much as I can.

Thanks for reading!



One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother- Proverbs 18:24


8 thoughts on “Letters to the Depressed 4

    thefeatheredsleep said:
    September 23, 2016 at 11:14 PM

    I think I thought I told you this but I’m not sure if I thought I did or actually did but either way I think your Letters to the Depressed are TOTALLY BRILLIANT I absolutely love them and I really, really hope you PUBLISH them!


      Dainty M responded:
      September 23, 2016 at 11:29 PM

      Thank you so much for following them. It means a lot to me. God bless you! โค

      Liked by 1 person

        thefeatheredsleep said:
        September 23, 2016 at 11:32 PM

        And you my friend – you are an extraordinarily good writer and I think this series is superb!


        Dainty M responded:
        September 24, 2016 at 12:03 AM

        Thank God for the courage to run the series. You’re amazing! Thanks for making me smile so much today ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Šโค

        Liked by 1 person

    Courtney said:
    September 26, 2016 at 2:25 PM

    Awesome post! As an extravert, the feeling of loneliness is The Worst! I think sometimes even when you’re around people, you can still feel lonely. At college, there are literally tons of people but I still feel pretty lonely there at times, because out of that huge group I really only have one friend.

    I think sometimes we don’t just need to be around people in general, but people who really know us, and who we know as well.

    P.S. Considering you like both Lecrae and NF you would get along SO well with one of my friendsโ€”he’s obsessed with both of those artists, as well as Skillet! If you ever come to the states you’ll have to meet him and exchange music!


      Dainty M responded:
      September 26, 2016 at 6:22 PM

      Lol! Funny, I also like Skillet a lot! ๐Ÿ˜€ So yes, I’d like to meet your friend!
      I totally agree with your points. Needless to say we’re friends because we easily get these things. Lol. I pray you make new friends in college soon! ๐Ÿ˜€ But of course, you still have your pen pal ๐Ÿ˜‰ Thanks Courtney!

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    Damola A said:
    September 26, 2016 at 2:30 PM

    God bless you for this!! Well done


      Dainty M responded:
      September 26, 2016 at 6:23 PM

      Aww, thanks Damola. God bless you too! โค

      Liked by 1 person

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