Not Okay

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Hi guys!

How’s the weekend going? It’s day 14 of the A-Z blogging challenge and just before we take the Sunday break, I would like to leave you with this little post.  N

I like this song ‘Who you are’ by Jesse J, partly because it talks about identity crisis and stuff. I was listening to it the other day and a line struck me; ‘It’s okay not to be okay.’

Is it really?

Truth is we often pretend we are okay when we are not. We smile outwardly while we die on the inside. Why do we do that to ourselves? Maybe because society has told us ‘big girls don’t cry’ or to ‘grow up’. We’ve also heard stuffs like ‘your tears won’t change anything ‘ or ‘just suck it in’ and a lot more. Society puts so much pressure on us to be perfect. To be so perfect we don’t break. We absorb everything like a sponge. Hide everything so no one knows we struggle with stuff-lest they tag us imperfect, unfit, or different. Heck! No one wants to be called a ‘sissy’ or a ‘loser’.

So people go about wearing masks. A woman could be in a destructive relationship but still use a concealer to hide the wounds and put on a smile so no one knows. A father could be in some deep financial crisis but keep faking a smile just so he doesn’t lose his family’s respect. A boy could be bullied in school but still put up a front so his friends think he’s tough.

But I want you to know it’s okay not to be okay. You don’t have to put up a show for everyone when you feel terrible on the inside. You don’t have to feign a smile when you’re crying inside.  You don’t have to look like you’ve got it all together when you don’t. Don’t lie and say you’re fine when you’re far from fine. It’s okay not to be okay.

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Whatever it is you may be going through, let it run its course. Cry if you have to. Scream! If you must. Don’t bottle it up ’cause it’ll only lead to implosion.

Hey, stop holding back the sobs because you fear you’ll disappoint them. It’s okay not to be okay- because soon you will be. As I often say, no matter how dark the night is, it doesn’t stop the day from breaking forth when it’s time.

Soon you will be okay. Soon you’ll smile again without pretending. But you only get there when you admit you’re hurt and stop covering up. Let God know your struggles and stop struggling on your own. When you tell Him ‘hey, I’m not okay but I want to be’, He’ll be more than pleased to make you ‘not just okay’ but perfectly and completely whole.

I didn’t plan on writing a long post as I’m usually lazy on the weekends, but He always has His way 😊

I pray for everyone who isn’t okay right now to get to the point of truly being okay with no pretense. God loves you!

Have a super duper weekend! ❤✌

See you on Monday! (as you know the blogging challenge excludes Sundays) 😊

Lots of love,

daintym

 

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9 thoughts on “Not Okay

    sesanchuks said:
    April 16, 2016 at 4:25 PM

    What about when people call you wuss, pansy, weak or attention seeking for voicing out.

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      Dainty M responded:
      April 16, 2016 at 4:30 PM

      That’s their opinion and they have a right to it. But that’s not who you are and pretending to be fine doesn’t make you any better. You have to be truly okay. 🙂

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    maryrose921 said:
    April 17, 2016 at 2:37 AM

    Great post! Good job on the A to Z challenge!

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      Dainty M responded:
      April 17, 2016 at 4:04 PM

      Thank you for the encouragement! God bless!

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    April 17, 2016 at 6:24 AM

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    Anthony Coleman said:
    April 17, 2016 at 7:08 PM

    ……and this was JUST what was needed and I’m sure not of myself alone, but the list of people needing to hear this extends Continants, religions, gender, financial status (the pressure there alone is intense) and relationships (which you’ve touched on).

    I’m amazed that even at my age, in desiring to date or be of interest to someone (the same applies to business as you often must put on your “best foot forward” to be considered or respected) that it doens’t take much to do something stupid and everything that you’ve worked towards is shattered within seconds. But hey, the sun never ceases to shine, even if it’s behind the clouds, it’s effect (daylight) can’t be blocked. And therefore, I’ll remain happy within myself despite if I’m ever respected, liked, loved, cherished or admired. It only takes that ONE to make a difference in a persons life. 💖

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      Dainty M responded:
      April 18, 2016 at 10:25 AM

      Very true. Thanks for the new perspective on this Anthony. God bless!

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