Just Friends

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Hi guys!

Itโ€™s day 10 of the A-Z blogging challenge! *whispers* I think April is really slowย ๐Ÿ˜– ย J

So yeah, I’ve always wanted to write about the โ€˜dreadfulโ€™ friend zone but I’ve been unable to pull my thoughts together for a while.

What is it about the friend zone that makes it so dreadful? In order not to assume everyone knows what the term means, here isย what it means;

Friend zone: this is when a person develops romantic feelings for someone, but the other person only sees the relationship as just being friends- Urban Dictionary

I usually joke and tell my friends my ‘friend zone’ is like a car park with different floors. The higher the level of zoning, the harder it can lead to anything. Lol.

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I’ve zoned and I have been zoned. Can I get a witness?ย ๐Ÿ˜ƒ However, it’s one thing to zone and say ‘hey, I’m sorry I don’t feel the way you do, can we just be friends?’ And itโ€™s another thing to beย onย the receiving end. Maybe he knows you have a crush on him but he rather throws the line ‘we are just friends‘. Just friends?! Are you kidding? ย (that’s my expression right there- picture below)friends

I don’t like the phrase ‘just friends’. Come on! Being my friend is not ‘just’. It takes a whole lot of persistence and endurance! To be there when your friend needs you. To love them even when you don’t feel like… To be honest, I’m not a pro in the friendship world but I’m really grateful to all who have taught me how to be a better friend.

I saw this picture (below) a while back on Instagram and I could totally relate! Thereโ€™s nothing as sweet as seeing a good looking brother, witty with a good sense of humor that also fears the Lord and worships Him in total abandon *already daydreaming* But there is also nothing as sad as being โ€˜friend zonedโ€™ by โ€˜the oneโ€™ *sobs*new church


But this right here hit me so hard and changed my perspective (picture below):ready

I couldnโ€™t agree more with this! Be friends until you are ready. Besides, not all the people we meet in life are ‘the one’ or even meant to be dated. Some even call this testing the waters. Hello! You only get to marry one person, so whatโ€™s the need of having complicated feelings for everyone you come across? *reality check hun*

I know I have my thoughts scattered everywhere in this post but Iโ€™ll wrap up with this; there is nothing wrong in being just friends. Stay friends until youโ€™re ready. Stay friends until youโ€™re certain he/she is really ‘the one’. And when it doesnโ€™t work out, still stay friends. Good friends are hard to find so cherish the ones you have!

Got any funny/sad friend zone stories where you zoned or were zoned to share? Please share! ๐Ÿ˜€

Lots of love,



5 thoughts on “Just Friends

    sesanchuks said:
    April 13, 2016 at 3:51 AM

    I have been zoned so much in life that I don’t even bother trying to get romantic, I just be like, ” hey, nice to meet you” and walk myself to the Friends Zone. *secretly and the CEO of the Friends Zone, inc.

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      Dainty M responded:
      April 13, 2016 at 9:13 PM

      LOL. Nice one Sesan! But you shouldn’t stop trying though-so ‘the one’ doesn’t pass you by ๐Ÿ™‚


    oyabedA said:
    April 16, 2016 at 7:46 PM

    Mehn… So, that’s the definition? *Lmao*

    Cool post!


      Dainty M responded:
      April 16, 2016 at 7:59 PM

      LOL. Thanks! ๐Ÿ˜‰


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