90 degrees

I hope this 90˚ triangle came out well. I never really liked maths, just knew I had to pass it :D. In my previous piece on Loving me, I was able to talk a little about loving yourself. Now this is another exciting piece on the famous commandments on love.

Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind’; and, ‘Love your neighbour as yourself.’ Luke10:27

Ring a bell? Yup! Sunday school lessons.

Get your geek glasses on, it’s time for maths class! Please don’t go! Didn’t mean to chase you away with that. Lol.

Hang on as we analyse this love triangle.

Love God

First, you need to love God. This obviously is not love at first sight because you haven’t seen Him-yet. A relationship with God isn’t meant to be lopsided. Nobody likes the unrequited love. Well at least, I don’t! Please note that God is not a genie; He is not just there to make your dreams come true. He longs for a relationship with you, as your Father, Friend, and Lover.

Remember the song ‘I’ll catch a grenade for you?’ Well, He actually caught a grenade for you (ok, maybe not a grenade; but nail piercings on a cross aren’t cool either) Funny part is, He did that when you didn’t even know/love Him. He knew you even before you were conceived. He has kept you this far and has led you to this blog post today. Come on! Do you need a psychic to tell you He is crazy about you?!

Accepting Him as your personal Lord and Savior is the way forward. I really like the word ‘personal’. Maybe because I’m a bit possessive, so saying stuffs like ‘MY OWN Lord and Savior’ rocks my socks. Making him ‘yours’ gives you this sense of belonging, knowing that He loves you and will always be there for you.

So then how do we love Him? By knowing Him for ourselves, not just based on what someone else said about Him. Spend time with His word; seek Him through prayers; quietly listen for His voice; sing and dance for Him.  But we all know you can’t just jump and start doing all these stuffs if you haven’t even accepted to ‘go out with Him’. Oh yes! He has asked you out already!
We wouldn’t be able to love when we don’t know Love Himself. Picture it this way, God is like the sun (in this scenario sun=love); so we act as mirrors, finding ourselves in Him and in turn reflecting that ray of love to others.

Love Me

Moving on, at the corner of the angle is ‘Me’. You need to love yourself. Again, you have to fall in love with yourself every day. I hear people say ‘I hate how big my eyes are’ or ‘why did God give me such big nose?’ I have also said stuffs like ‘if only I had that hourglass body ‘ and ‘if only I had her voice’ and so on.

Truth is, some of us don’t love ourselves as we ought to because we don’t know ourselves well enough. A journey to self-discovery and self-love exposes new potentials we never knew we had in us. It opens us to unique creative thought processes that lay dormant; talents untapped. I think an Eat, Pray, Love tour is quite necessary!

Remember you’re like a mirror. You reflect His love. You see yourself as He sees you. Wonderful, beautiful, talented, strong…and more!

Love others

Hmm, now this is the difficult part. At least for me! Of course it’s a lot easier to love people who are sweet, nice, kind and caring. But what of those who are mean? Who constantly try to bring us down with hurtful words and actions? Do we really have to love them to? Hate to disappoint you dear, but yes we do! But you know how we can do this? By reflecting His love. As mirrors, we reflect His love to others. Yes, they may be really, really annoying. They may not be worth our love! But do you really think you’re worth His love? Yet He loves you! So why can’t you extend that love to others? Look at the triangle again, notice how His love flows both to ‘Me’ and ‘Others’? Likewise, we ought to love others as He loves us.

There is a lot to ponder upon and  adjustments to be made. Even for me. Sometimes I get stuck at the angle where I only love myself, obsessively looking at myself in the mirror of His love, and failing to reflect that love to others. But hey, we can’t beat ourselves up about it! Now we know what we ought to do and His grace is more than enough to help us do the right thing.

It’s always my desire that you live victoriously!

Lots of love,

© Mfon Etuk, 2015