Month: February 2015
Hello fabulous people! So, today I’m gonna write on recycling X. I believe I’ve got lots of green readers who like to recycle stuffs into reusable things 😉 Personally I like recycling, I feel it reduces waste not until we actualluybbegin to recycle things we need to get rid of. Don’t worry this isn’t a piece on how to become green or more environmentally conscious, so relax.
Now I discovered that after going through different relationships with people whose names are part of the 26 English alphabets, we have a break up and call them ‘ex'(I’ll replace that with ‘x’ in this piece). After an x, we begin to ask ‘y’. We ask God why it didn’t work out, we ask ourselves why we didn’t do our best, we ask our friends and we even ask the media. People get so stuck in the ‘Y’ phase for a long time, trying to see why the relationship failed, why they did not do better, why their lovers walked away and all the whys there is to ask.
The next alphabet after ‘Y’ is ‘Z’. A computer command of ‘ctrl + Z’ is to undo an earlier done action. God has given us the control Z to undo all the hurts and mistakes we had from our Xs. But most people skip it or sleep through it (Zzzzzzz) and go through the same vicious cycle without learning their lessons. They aimlessly go through Adam, Brad, Cal, Dave (A,B,C,D)…and back to ‘X’.
Stuck in the same cycle, oblivious to the true meaning of love, constantly taking off the band aid, preventing the wound from healing. It rather gets more infections that make us believe love is but a fantasy, a mere figment of the imagination. These infections become contagious. From a wounded heart, we begin to hurt others.
Truth is a hurting heart will always hurt others. Without truly letting our hearts heal and undoing the wrongs we’ve done using the ctrl + Z, we’ll constantly be stuck in that heartbreaking cycle!
Sometimes after a break up, we feel so alone and vulnerable and we turn back to the ones who rejected us. The ones who didn’t deserve our hearts. The ones who wrenched our hearts with their cold hands. We throw it back at them all in search of a little comfort. Yes the angel in them may show up but not long after, the demon in them will use a paper shredder for our hearts.
We are back to singing the sad songs, eating all the ice cream, pudding and chocolate, hating the concept of love or generally hating the opposite sex and trying to satisfy our desire for love and companionship with unspeakable things.
It’s time for a restart! Refresh your page! Let Love in, let Him do His work of total healing and mending in you. Ctrl Z (undo) all the wrongs the Xs have done, turn on a new page. You don’t have to keep testing the waters to find which is warm enough for you. Take a leap of faith! Believe in Love! Love yourself, love others, free those who have hurt you, let them go…permanently delete (shift + del) from your stored files.Then, you can love on a refreshed page. It’s always my desire for you to live a victorious life! Have an awesome weekend people! 😀
Hello fabulous people!
Valentine is here again and for so long I pondered on what to write, perhaps a love story of some sort. Finally, I decided not to go with the traditional love story of ‘boy meets girl, boy likes girl, boy buys girl gifts on Valentine’s day’. Now you may wonder what I have to write that won’t be the classic love story. Okay here it is:
Remember how there’s this beautiful commandment to love God first and love others ‘as you love yourself’? My emphasis today is on loving yourself. You cannot effectively love that spouse, lover, parent, sibling, colleague…without loving yourself first.
I have spent several Valentine’s days, being moody because I was single. I would throw huge pity parties for myself the whole day; probably shut myself from seeing other lovers exchange gifts (pathetic, I know). It always felt like Cupid’s arrow kept missing target (me) on purpose. I’d angrily burst balloons that lined the hallways. I would listen to my ‘sad playlist’ and sing along while taking some ice cream for the pain. I’m a hopeless romantic but then I was more of ‘hopeless’ than romantic. This went on and on for years till the light dawned on me. Maybe Cupid kept skipping me because I barely loved me enough to love others.
Love ultimately flows from the one who is Love himself, and that’s God. This love was clearly shown in the gory death of His son for a bunch of messed up humans who didn’t care about Him. Personally, I have struggled with the concept of loving people who don’t care about me. I have often limited my container of love to my family and friends because I feel it wouldn’t be enough to go round. But when I look at the work on the cross, the selfishness disappears. I love God because He ‘asked me out first’ even when I had no makeup on. As a result of my love for Him, my container of love overflows to people who don’t care about me or even hate me.
I can spend all day writing about the love of God which I am so fond of, but I think I should leave that for another post. I’ll rather try and stick to the subject of loving yourself so you can love your neighbour (friend, lover, parent, colleague, course mate, classmate…) a whole lot better. However, bear in mind that you can’t truly love without knowing Love (God).
Love is beautiful. I love ‘love’, I love watching fairytales come true. But most people limit love to a romantic relationship, when there’s so much more! And even in the romantic relationships, I find some as being pretty much parasitic in that the boy gives the gifts on Valentine’s Day while the girl receives it with a huge grin across her face (or in some cases, a frown- she obviously wanted a wristwatch not a flower- LOL), and she skedaddles afterwards. I begin to wonder how I’d love my neighbour as myself and not get them thoughtful gifts (as I always get for myself).
I want you to choose to love yourself from today onward. Spoil yourself with gifts, go to those sites you always wanted to, have fun, be happy, get the pair of shoes you’ve always wanted to have, buy that new perfume you wanted to try out, celebrate those in love, eat your favourite meal, play that keyboard or guitar you’ve allowed dust to coat for so long, take in the scent of the flowers, do what makes you happy, hug yourself, go for that soothing massage, celebrate life! When you start living life with so much love for yourself, you would be able to show love to your neighbour with ease.
Challenge for the day; as you pick out a gift for your loved ones, pick as you would pick for yourself. And don’t wallow in self-pity if you are alone on Val’s day, buy a gift for yourself, you deserve something new! As always, I want you to live a victorious life.
Happy Valentine’s Day!!!